21 Secrets To The Life You Want6 Comments
21条通往理想生活的真理
By: Barrie Davenport
翻译：darkblue1213
Who is in the driver’s seat of your life? Your job? Your family? The changing wind of life’s circumstances?是什么驾驭着你的生活?是工作、家庭还是环境的变化?
Ask yourself, “Is my life the way I want it to be?” If not, what is blocking you from jumping in the driver’s seat of your life?
扪心自问，“这样的生活真的是我想要的吗?”如果不是，那又是什么使你无法掌舵自己的生活呢?
Sometimes, it feels impossible to take control when you are stuck in a job you dislike because it pays the bills. Or when you can’t find a job. Or when you know your friends or family will reject you if you choose a different life path.
有些时候，生活的确很难主宰，当你为了维持生计不得不做自己不感兴趣的工作，或是苦苦求职，亦或是冒着众叛亲离的风险转变生活之路。
Life can sometimes be like a sticky spider web — the more you struggle against it, the more stuck you become.
有时生活就像一张蛛网，痛苦挣扎，反倒越陷越深。
Yes, life does have limitations, some of which are unchangeable. But a very large percentage of our lives is in our control — enough to profoundly impact how fulfilled and happy we feel on a daily basis.
说实话，生活不可能事事如愿，有些事无从改变。而我们能掌控生活的很多方面，足以在日常生活中很大程度上影响我们的幸福感和满足感。
Just knowing that you have some control is enough to change your perspective from hopeless to optimistic.
仅仅是相信自己有掌控生活的能力便能使你转悲观为乐观。
Creating The Life You Want
打造你心目中的理想生活
The very first step toward creating the life you want is to become a blank slate. Allow yourself to be open to some new ways of thinking, a different perspective. This may require you to shift some old beliefs or let go of your current “personal operating system“.
打造理想生活的第一步就是要返朴归真。改换思路，接受一些新的观点。这可能需要你摒弃一些旧观念，改变一下你的自我运作模式。
When you begin to make small shifts in your thinking, you open big doors for new ideas and opportunities.
当你的思维模式发生细微转变时，你便为自己开启了新的想法和新的机遇。
21 Truths to Living the Life Your Want
21条让你通往理想生活的真理
1. Understand that sustained happiness rarely comes from outside circumstances. Your wealth, beauty, power, or acquisitions have far less to do with happiness than your appreciation for what you have this very moment and your loving relationships with others.
1、持久的幸福感很少来自于外部环境，在对幸福的感知上，你拥有的财富、外貌、权势以及一切来自外部的收获都无法与感恩此刻所拥有的一切或拥有人与人之间美好的情感所带来的幸福感相提并论。
2. You can live your life by design, but you must acknowledge your power in that, plan for it, and take the necessary actions.
2、你可以精心设计自己的生活，但也必须明白自己的力量十分有限，你能做的是制定计划并努力实现。
3. You can’t have it all, but you can have enough to be very happy. Prioritize and focus on the top 3 or 4 most important areas of your life.
3、你无法得到一切你想得到的，但你能拥有那些让你快乐的。优先致力于最重要的三到四个方面。
4. Stop focusing on what you don’t have or don’t like. Focus on what you do have and do like, and create a plan for what you think you can improve and change.
4、不要将精力放在你无法拥有或不感兴趣的事物上。转而投入那些你所拥有的，所热爱的，为此制定计划，尽力改善那些你认为有改进余地的方面。
5. Abandon perfectionism. It is a useless pursuit with no end. It creates stress and unhappiness. Learn to find the balance point between good enough and peaceful living.5、放弃对于完美的追求，这种无用的追求永无止境，它只能带给你压力与痛苦。尝试在出色和平和的生活间寻找一个平衡点。
6. Put your own deepest needs first. If you are living for others before yourself and pushing your own needs aside, eventually you will crumble in some way — through depression, anger, anxiety or destructive behaviors.
6、将自己内心的需求放在首位。如果你总是将他人的需求放在自己之前将自己的放在一边，那么你一定会崩溃的，可能会抑郁、愤怒、焦虑或做出一些过激行为。
7. Your choices may disappoint or offend others. That is sometimes necessary in order to grow and live authentically. Those who love you and want the best for you will accept and support you.
7、你的选择可能会让别人觉得失望或被冒犯。这其实是成长所必经的过程，切实的生活所必须付出的代价。那些爱着你并为你着想的人会包容并支持你的。
8. Count your blessings. You probably already have many of the things you want for your life. Don’t take them for granted.
8、细数你所得到的，你可能已经拥有了很多生命中渴望得到的事物，切勿身在福中不知福。
9. Address personal issues head-on. Don’t use these as an excuse for not having what you want in life. If you have a wound, a personality or relationship problem, or an anxiety, go to a counselor and work on it. Resolve it. Weak people don’t go to counselors, but strong forward-moving people do.
9、直面你的烦恼，不要把他们成当做你生活不如意的理由。如果你有烦恼，例如个性不合或人际关系上的问题，焦虑等，找人倾诉，寻求解答，并解决问题。懦弱的人不去解决问题，而坚强上进的人则不会逃避。
10. Pick one small problem or irritation and resolve it. Feel how much personal power and energy that gives you. Imagine how it would feel to resolve one of your bigger problems or concerns.
10、从一个小问题或小烦恼入手，去解决它们。感受你自身的力量和能力所能带给你的一切，想一想如果能解决一个更难的问题，消除一个更大的困扰会使怎样的感觉。
11. Consider disengaging from people who bring you down or drain your energy. Build relationships with people who are positive, action-oriented, and supportive.
11、考虑远离那些让你难过，让你产生无力感的人，和积极乐观，勇于实践，并能支持你的人做朋友。
12. Pick the one change that would make the biggest positive difference in your life. Begin visualizing your life with this change implemented. Practice this regularly throughout the day.
12、做出一个能让你的生活最大程度上变得积极的改变，带着这个改变审视自己的生活，并在日常生活中不断去实施。
13. Take this one step further and begin writing some specific action steps that might help make this change happen.
13、将上一步不断加深，将一些能让改变成真的具体步骤写下来。
14. Strengthen your strengths. Make yourself indispensable in your area(s) of interest and expertise.
14、使自己变得更强，使自己能独立地在感兴趣的、专长的领域里自由驰骋。
15. Always leave time for fun. Make fun happen in your life.
15、总要给自己留下点时间做些让自己开心的事，让快乐降临你的生活。
16. Don’t neglect your relationships. Don’t take them for granted. Find out what makes your loved ones happy, and do that for them.
16.不要忽略了你的人际关系，不要认为朋友是理所当然的存在。好好找找让你爱的人幸福的方式，并付诸行动。
17. Learn to let it go. Worry is the most fruitless expenditure of energy on the planet. Very little is worth worrying about. If you must do something, take action instead.
17.学着放下焦虑，焦虑是世界上最没有用的了。没什么事情是值得烦恼的，如果你非要做些什么，那就要行动起来。
18. Don’t assume that you can’t do something. Prove that you can’t, and if so, try something else.
18.不要总是觉得自己做不到，如果你能证明自己的确做不到，再去尝试些别的。
19. More often than not, your fear is the culprit for inaction. More often than not, your fears are unfounded or at least out of proportion. More often than not, your fear will go away once you take action.
19.害怕有时是懒惰的罪魁祸首。时常，你的恐惧是可笑的，或者是没有必要的。一旦你采取行动，恐惧自然就灰飞烟灭了。
20. Focus on the task at hand. When you feel overwhelmed and pulled in many directions, just pick an important thing and do it without distraction. Then do another one.
20.集中精力干手头的活，当你觉得生活毫无头绪不知所措的时候，挑一件最重要的事，一门心思地去完成，然后再做下一件。
21. Life is short. You have a limited number of days on this Earth. There isn’t time to waste your days in worry, anger or frustration. Make the most of this moment and the next and the next and the next . . .
21.人生苦短，你能在这个世界上活蹦乱跳的日子并不长。不能把宝贵的生命浪费在愤愤不平，挫折苦恼上。好好地活这一秒以及下一秒，下一分钟，下个小时...
If you want to have a wonderful life, spend your days in positive, forward-moving action and thought. Dismiss your longings for what you don’t have. Enjoy the actions as much or more than the outcomes.The real secret to having the life you want is learning to love the life that you have.
如果你憧憬美好的生活，积极的度过每一天，勇于实践，富于思考。放下不切实际的愿望，享受过程，少在乎结果。
通往美好生活的密匙是热爱你现在所拥有的生活。
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