精读丨你真的会积极倾听吗？我不信

如何修炼一种“积极的倾听”

课程导读

▸ 罗杰斯的人本主义心理学有什么特点？ 

▸ 罗杰斯强调倾听的做法，与弗洛伊德的心理分析有何区别？

▸ 为什么鲁豫的尬聊三连问不是基于一种积极的聆听？？

▸ 通过哪些步骤可以锻炼积极倾听的能力？

▸ 人们通常在什么情况下会自动选择积极倾听？

▸ 与孩子们谈心时，父母为什么要选择不加评判地接纳？

▸ “ace a test”这个短语是什么意思？

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The Art of Active Listening

As a culture, we treat listening as an automatic process about which there is not a lot to say: in the same category as digestion, or blinking. When the concept of listening is addressed at any length, it is in the context of professional communication; something to be honed by leaders and mentors, but a specialisation that everyone else can happily ignore. This neglect is a shame. Listening well, it took me too long to discover, is a sort of magic trick: both parties soften, blossom, they are less alone.

来源：aeon

参考译文

积极倾听的艺术

作为一种文化，我们把倾听视为一种不需要深究的自动过程：与消化或眨眼同属一类。当倾听这一概念被具体讨论时，它常与职业交际联系起来；只有领导者和导师才需要培养此项技能，而其他普通人可以愉快地忽略这一专长。这种疏忽令人惋惜。我花了很长时间才发现，良好的倾听具有魔力：它使对话双方都变得柔和，使之相互成长，不再孤独。

重点词汇

at any length 详细地（用于否定句）

○ in a full or complete way — used in negative statements

○ e.g. The book doesn't discuss the topic at any length. 这本书没有详细地讨论这个话题。

hone /həʊn/ v. 磨炼，训练，提高（技艺）

○ to improve your skill at doing something, especially when you are already very good at it

○ e.g. He set about honing his skills as a draughtsman. 他着手提高自己的绘画技艺。

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