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怎样过没有遗憾的人生

没有遗憾的生活

A guest post by Tess Marshall of The Bold Life.
When I think of someone who lived a life without regrets, I think of my mom. She only had a sixth grade education because she quit school to take care of her own mother.

每当我想起谁的一生没有遗憾,就会想起我的妈妈。她只读到小学六年级,以为她不得不照顾她的妈妈。

Her first husband died from a brain tumor and she was left with three small children. Soon after, she married my dad and together they raised ten children.

她第一任丈夫死于脑瘤,给她留下了三个年幼的孩子。不久之后,她跟我爸爸结婚了,他们共同养育了10个孩子。

Mom never learned how to drive. She never had her own bank account. She never lived alone. Yet, she had the courage to divorce my dad when she was 65 years old.

妈妈从没学过开车,也从没有过自己的银行账户。她从没有一个人生活过,然而,她65岁的时候却有勇气跟我爸爸离婚。

She remained friends with my dad after the divorce. When her health failed nearly twenty years later, she moved back in with him, no regrets.

和我爸爸离婚之后他们还是朋友。20年之后她身体不好,又搬回来和爸爸一起住,没有留下遗憾。

Eight months have gone by since my mom passed away at age 90. I’ve given a lot of though to how I live my own life because of her love and influence.

从妈妈90岁去世到现在已经8个月了。在妈妈的爱和影响之下,我时常想我该如何度过自己的一生。

Keep in mind everyone makes mistakes, we’re human. When we learn from our mistakes, we can move on and let our regrets go.

时刻铭记人非圣贤孰能无过。从错误中学习,我们可以不断进步,远离遗憾。

Read on to learn how you can live a life with no regrets.

读读此文学习学习如何度过一个没有遗憾的人生

Invest in yourself

投资自己

Be your own loving caregiver. Rejecting and neglecting yourself are painful. You are worthy because you exist. Practice feeling affection and appreciation for yourself. Allow yourself to feel pleasure.

好好爱自己。拒绝和忽视自己是很痛苦的,存在即合理。学会喜欢并欣赏自己。允许自己感到快乐。

Share. Learn to self-reveal. Give others a peek into your inner world. Disclose your thoughts, experiences, feelings, and dreams. You have the power to light up a life or brighten a room with your presence.

分享。学会释放自己。给别人走进你内心世界的机会。展示你的想法、经历、情感和梦想。你可以点亮你的人生,照亮你的存在。

Know yourself. Get comfortable in your own skin. Accept your weaknesses and shortcomings. Celebrate your strengths and successes. Have the confidence to be who you are.

了解你自己。对自己的皮肤满意。接收自己的弱点和缺点。为自己的优势和成功喝彩。对自己充满信心。

Be good to yourself. Put yourself first. Become your own best friend. Make good choices. Several times throughout the day ask, “Does this choice honor me?”

对自己好一点。把自己放在第一位,做自己的最好朋友。做正确的选择。每天问自己几次“这个选择值得吗”

Invest in others

投资别人

Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Choose to be with the people who bring out the best in you. Love the people who don’t support you from a distance. Wish them well and send them on their way.

和那些爱你尊重你的人在一起,选择那些可以让你最好一面展示出来的人在一起。爱那些真正支持你的人,祝福他们陪伴他们。

Say, “I love you,” often. Express your affection and appreciation to friends and family. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and uncomfortable. Life is short. What matters is connection. Connect as often as possible.

经常说“我爱你”把你对家人和朋友的喜爱和感激表达出来。允许自己脆弱,人生短暂。关键是联系,要尽可能经常地联系。

Live simply. Keep your relationships uncomplicated. Create meaningful experiences. Make memories. Don’t gossip or compare yourself to others. You don’t know what anything is for. You can’t see the big picture.

简单的生活。保持你的关系简单。经历有意义的经历,留下回忆。不要议论别人,也不要那自己和别人相比。你不知道事物的发展,你看不到大的轮廓。

Invest in spirituality.

投资精神世界

Keep your heart open. Practice accepting people you don’t like. Look for the good in everyone. Be kind and smile. Every human being wants the same three things; to love, to be loved, and to know they matter.

打开心门。试着接受那些你不喜欢的人,寻找每一个人的优点。友好微笑的做人。每个人都希望相同的三样东西:爱,被爱以及知道自己的重要。

Get spiritual. Go within. Use prayer, silence, meditation or yoga. Connect with God, Buddha, or what ever is right for you. Renew your spirit and strength.

找到精神寄托。祷告,沉默,沉思,瑜伽。基督教,佛教或者任何适合你的。不断更新你的精神和力量。

Spend time in nature. Swim in the ocean. Plant a garden. Climb a mountain. Ride in a dune buggy. Walk barefoot in the grass. Watch the sunrise and sunset. Any thing you do outside is energizing and refreshing. Being in nature creates calm.

走进大自然。在大海里面游泳,建一个花园。登一座山,在沙漠里兜风,赤着脚漫步在草地上。看日出日落,在大自然里面做的每一件事都是在补充精力。大自然使人平静。

Learn to forgive. Resolve your childhood issues. Release grudges and guilt. Forgive yourself for hurting others. Forgive others for causing you pain. Forgive your parents. Louise Hay says, “Our parents did the best they could at the time, with what they had. When we know better we do better.”

学会原谅。忘记儿时的争执,忘记仇恨和罪恶。原谅自己对别人的伤害,也原谅别人对你的伤害。原谅你的父母。路易斯 海 说:“我们父母尽可能把他们最好的给我,我们理解的越明白我们就会做的越多”

 

Accept others as they are. Attempting to change someone is a waste of time and energy. You will find yourself doing tomorrow what you judge somebody for doing today. We are all imperfectly perfect. Stay in your own backyard. Mind your own business.

接受别人。尝试改变别人是一件浪费时间和精力的事情。你会发现评论别人是在浪费你的时间。我们都不完美,管好自己。 

Invest in health and wellness.

投资健康

Eat mindfully. Don’t multi-task. Keep your mind in the present moment. Be grateful for your food. Smell and really taste your food. Notice the texture. Pause between bites. Stop when you are full.

主意饮食。不要多元化,让你的意识停留在当前,感激你的食物。没吃一口的时候停下来去真正的品尝你的食物。吃饱的时候就不要再吃了。

Exercise regularly. Begin today and make one small change in your wellness program. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. It’s a win-win situation. You’ll feel good today and at the same time invest in a healthy and happy future.

定时锻炼。从今天开始,为你的健康项目改变一点点。重复,重复再重复。这是双赢的,不但今天会感觉很好而且是在为一个健康幸福的将来投资。

Schedule play and fun. Discover the benefits of play. Laughter and joy enrich your well-being. Prominent psychologist, Erik Erikson stated, “The richest and fullest lives balance work, love, and play. All three must be pursued with equal dedication.”

计划着学习和玩。去发掘玩的益处。快乐和笑让你健康,著名心理学家埃里克森说“最富有充实的人生是找到工作,爱情和娱乐的平衡点”

Be creative. Take time to create things that have nothing to do with your work or business. Make a collage. Do a self-portrait. Take photographs. Try a new recipe. We were born to create. It’s good for your soul.

有创造力。花一些时间去创造那些和你工作无关的事情。制作一个拼图,画一幅自画像,摄影,学一道新菜。人与生俱来具有创造性,这对你的身心有益。

Enjoy your work.

喜欢你的工作

Follow your dreams. You are capable of way more than you can imagine. Create a plan and take action. Learn to prioritize and focus. Leo Babauta, suggests, you focus on how much you love what you’re doing, instead of how much you can accomplish.

追随 你的梦想,你的能力会超出你的想象。制作一个计划并付出行动。学会优先考虑并专注与此 。里奥 巴伯塔说,你的专注度取决于你对你所做事情的热爱而不是你能完成多少。

Take risks. Do one thing a day that scares you. Make a phone call and ask for what you want. Follow up. Keep asking until you get a yes. Be bold and brave. You have nothing to lose. There are approximately 7 billion people in the world. If someone tells you ‘no’ ask someone else.

去冒险。一天做一件使你害怕的事儿。打一个电话要你想要的东西。继续坚持直到你得到一个肯定的答复,勇敢一点,你不会失去什么。世界上大约有70亿人。如果一个人给你说“不”那个请求其他的人。

Expand your comfort zone. Face your fears. Name your fears in your journal. Next to each fear, write down the worse case scenarios if the fear came true. Question how each fear is holding you back. Take and action step within the next 24 hours toward a personal goal.

扩大你的舒适区。正视恐惧,记下旅途中的恐惧,走近每一个恐惧,如果恐惧成真就记下当时糟糕的情景。想想每一个恐惧是如何让你后退的。在明天之内采取行动走向下个个人目标。

Enjoy your life.

热爱你的生活

Do it now. Don’t procrastinate. Take a vacation. Go on a trip. See the world. Go places you haven’t been before. Do things you haven’t done before. Explore!

立刻行动,不要拖延。度一个假期去旅行。看看世界,去一个你从没有去过的地方,做从没有做过的事情。去探险!

Participate in life. Watch very little television. Eliminate watching, reading or listening to the news. Someone will tell you what’s going on in the world. Instead of watching reality shows, take a dance or singing lesson

参与人生。少看电视,减少看,读或者听新闻的时间,有人会告诉你世界当前发生了什么。用看不现场直播的时间去参见一个舞蹈或者歌唱班。

Be debt free. Live with less. Give up recreational shopping. Don’t buy into the next best thing. Put your time and energy into your family, neighborhood and community.

不要欠债。俭朴的生活,放弃一些娱乐性的购物。不要买些将来用的东西,把你的时间和精力投入到你的家人邻居和社区里。

Learn how to handle setbacks. Life is made of ups, downs, and disappointments. When life becomes difficult, take it easy. Look for a lesson in each experience, learn from it, and move forward.

学会如何处理挫折,生活由顺利,挫折和失望构成。如果生活变得困难就不要紧张。从没次经历中学习,前进。

Let go of urgency and fear. When you live in the pain of the past or the fear of the future you feel anxious and stressed. Learn to relax and go with the flow. Shift your energy by changing your thoughts. Recognize the fear based stories you tell yourself and drop them.

放开恐惧。如果你生活在过去的痛苦之中或者对将来的恐惧之中,你将会感觉焦虑不安。学会放松让那些恐惧随风而去。改变你的思想增加精力,认识到恐惧是自己给的然后驱走它们。

 

Stop whining. Become aware of how often you complain or find fault with others. You cannot be happy when you feel like a victim, believe you’re entitled, want to be rescued or blame others. Learn to recognize and change these destructive thoughts and emotions.

停止抱怨。认识到你多么经常的抱怨或者职责别人的错误。总是觉得自己是一个受害者你是不会开心的,总觉得自己需要被拯救,不断的职责别人。学会意识到并去改变这些致命的想法和感觉。

Give more than you take. Anticipate someone’s needs and meet them. Go the extra mile. Make others feel important. Help someone as often as possible. Share your knowledge. Do something for someone who can’t pay you back.

多付出少求回报。发现别人的需要并满足他们。走剩下的路程,让别人感觉到他们的重要性。尽可能多的帮助别人,分享你的知识。帮助那些不能够回报你的人。

Surrender your regrets. They have helped you grow into the person you are today. When you know better you do better. Choose to create and amazing and adventurous future for yourself, one wonderful day at a time.

降服你的遗憾。它们使你成长为现在的你。你明白的越多做的越好。选择为自己闯关一个了不起的冒险的未来,每天都是精彩的。

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