对号入座：高情商人士的12大特点

情商测试和培训机构TalentSmart的创始人特拉维·布拉德伯里列出了一些具备高情商的明显特征

欢迎对号入座哦

拥有丰富的情感词汇

People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling 'bad,' emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel 'irritable,' 'frustrated,' 'downtrodden,' or 'anxious.'
高情商的人之所以可以掌控自身的情绪是因为他们能理解这些情绪，并可以用丰富的情感词汇来描述它们。当许多人仅仅用简单的词汇例如“不好”来描述自身的情绪时，高情商的人能够指出他们所感觉到的是“急躁”，“沮丧”，“压抑”还是“不安”。

对他人感到好奇

It doesn't matter if they're introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ.
无论是内向型还是外向型的人，高情商者都会对身边的人感到好奇。这种好奇是源于同理心，是高情商的重要表现。

拥抱改变

Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness.
高情商的人是灵活多变并能随机应变的。他们知道害怕改变会麻痹他们并极大地威胁他们的成功与幸福。

不易动怒

If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it's difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.
如果你对自己有充分的了解，他人的言语与举动是很难让你动怒的。高情商的人都很自信并且心胸开阔，所以脸皮也就不会那么薄。

懂得如何拒绝

Saying no is indeed a major self-control challenge for many people. When it's time to say no, emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as 'I don’t think I can' or 'I'm not certain.' Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
对于许多人来说，说“不”的确是一项对自控力的挑战。当该说“不”的时候，高情商的人会避免使用“我觉得我不行”或“我不确定”等这类的短语。对新的承诺说“不”会让你遵守现有的承诺，并让你有机会成功履行承诺。

不计较错误

Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.
高情商的人会和犯过的错误保持距离，但也不会遗忘它们。

付出且不求回报

When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression.
当某人主动送你东西，并不求回报时，会给你留下深刻印象。

Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.
高情商的人会与他人建立良好的人际关系，因为他们随时随地都在为他人着想。

不记仇

The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. When the threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when the threat is ancient history, holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time.
带有仇恨的负面情绪实际上是一种压力反应。当威胁即将来临的时候，这种反应对你的生存至关重要。但当威胁已经远离的时候，你仍背负压力的话会伤害身体，长此以往，对身体健康也会造成损害。

中和消极人群

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check.
与难相处的人打交道会令大多数人感到沮丧和疲惫。但高情商的人在和消极人群的交流过程中能克制自己的情绪。

They identify their own emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find solutions and common ground.
高情商的人能清楚辨别自己的情绪，避免发怒和沮丧以免火上浇油。同时他们也能考虑难相处的人的立场并能够找出双方的共同话题和相处之道。

Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
甚至在事态已完全失控时，高情商的人对消极人群的观点也会持保留态度，不会让他或她影响自己的心态。

不苛求完美

Emotionally intelligent people won't set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn't exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible.
高情商的人不会把完美当成自己追逐的目标，因为他们知道完美是不存在的。犯错是人类的本性。

学会装死，掉线

Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment. When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors.
高情商的又一表现就是学会定期断开连接，因为这将有助于你控制压力并活在当下。如果你每周七天、每天24小时随时准备迎接工作，你将让自己遭受压力的持续轰炸。

不让任何人影响到你的好心情

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they've done, they won't let anyone's opinions or snide remarks take that away from them.
当你的快乐和满足感源自他人对你的评价时，你就不再是能掌控自身幸福的主人了。高情商的人对自己所做的事感觉良好，不会轻易受他人观点或尖刻评论的影响。

While it's impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don't have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people's opinions with a grain of salt.
虽然你不可能对他人的评价充耳不闻，但是你不必拿自己和其他人作比较，而且你可以对他人的观点持保留态度。

That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.
这样的话，无论别人想什么或做什么，都无所谓，因为你的自我价值感源于内心。

via.潮英语

BFFstudy

只给你最好看的

本站仅提供存储服务，所有内容均由用户发布，如发现有害或侵权内容，请点击举报。