爱情小贴士：如何做一个浪漫的人

Romance: a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Sadly, most of us have a tendency to get too comfortable and complacent in our relationships, turning what used to be fresh and exciting into a VCR rewind that becomes boring and monotonous.浪漫：一种因爱情油然而生的兴奋和神秘感受。听上去很美妙吧！可悲的是，多数人慢慢就习惯了这种舒适的关系而变得自满，即使回放曾经新鲜而兴奋的VCR都感觉变得单调乏味。

A person can only do the same thing so many times before they get bored, so going on the same dates over and over again probably isn’t the best way to keep your love life exciting or mysterious. The good news? Anyone can be romantic. Apply these 30 tips if you’d like to make your partner say, “WOW!”在恋人之间感觉乏味之前，一方重复着一件事：一次次地约会，但约会可能并不是保持爱情生活充满兴奋或神秘的最佳方式。让一个人变得越来越浪漫有妙招吗？用上这30个妙招你的伴侣会向你发出“哇哦”的赞叹声！

1. Is your partner sick at work?爱人带病上班？

Surprise them at work with hot cocoa or tea. If they’ve got a terrible case of the flu, you could even bring them a thermos containing Theraflu! One of my past girlfriends did this for me and I thought it was one of the sweetest things she ever did for me. Don’t underestimate the power of small, thoughtful surprises!来个惊喜！在上班时间送去一杯热咖啡或热茶。如果对方得了重感冒，还要带上用热水瓶冲好的感冒冲剂！我以前的一个女朋友在我感冒的时候就是这样照顾我的，这是她对我做过的最甜蜜的一个举动。不要低估小小惊喜带给你的体贴之情！

2. Make a mix tape/CD.自制一段录音带/一盘CD。

It’s old-school, but it still works (and your partner will think about you every time they listen to it!).尽管做法老套，但是很管用（对方会在每次想到你的时候都听一下！）。

3. Start every day with a hug and kiss.每天都以拥抱和亲吻开始一天的生活。

This will release feel-good hormones in your body that will make you and your love feel super happy!拥抱和亲吻都能让你的体内释放产生一种让你感觉很棒的荷尔蒙，让你和对方都感受到那种超幸福的感觉体验！

4. Write a love note.写下甜言蜜语。

Yes, you could send a text saying, “I love you,” but that’s too obvious. Given that most of us communicate electronically all day every day, taking the time to actually write a letter by hand will show your partner how thoughtful and romantic you are.你可以发条短信说“我爱你！”，但太明显了不够自然。我们每天都和电子设备打交道，找时间亲手写封信，对方会感受到你很用心很体贴很浪漫。

5. Write a love poem.写一首情诗。

If a note is just too easy, step up your game by upgrading to a love poem! It doesn’t have to be a Shakespearean sonnet: it’s the thought that counts! If you’re a comedian, you could even make it comedic, because few things are more sexy than funny people.如果写在纸上的情话太小菜一碟的话，直接升级为写情诗！无需非得写成莎士比亚的十四行诗才够浪漫！只要是你是用心写给对方的情诗，对方就会感觉到无比性感浪漫。

6. Go on a picnic.去野餐。

Prepare a lunch or grab some take-out and enjoy a scenic lunch together. Bonus points if you plan it at a time the park will be quiet so you can enjoy some much-needed peace and silence together.带上备好的午餐或外卖食品，一起到野外边欣赏美景边享用午餐。如果你计划在公园野餐，你们可以享受两个人在一起的平和和安静。

7. Never stop complimenting your partner.时不时地夸赞对方。

Never stop complimenting your partner on your favorite things about their body, and if they’re looking super suave and sexy, make sure you tell them all about it.对方身上总有你最喜欢的地方，才会让你觉得对方超级迷人性感，一定要时时夸赞，一定要让对方知道你喜欢对方的地方。

8. Shoulder rub? Yes, please!肩部按摩？对的去吧！

Who doesn’t love a good shoulder rub? Give your partner a nice massage if they look tense after work. If you’re lucky, they might return the favor. If you’re really lucky, it could lead to more fun activities!谁不爱对方给自己好好来次肩部按摩呢？如果爱人下班后累了，就为爱人做做按摩。如果你够幸运，对方也会在你感觉累了的时候，给你做按摩。如果你真的很幸运，对方会做更有意思的放松活动来帮你解乏。

9. Say, “I love you.”“我爱你”三个字常挂嘴边。

It goes without saying, but in the hustle and bustle of the stressful life a lot of us lead, it’s awfully easy to forget the power of those three simple words.爱意不言而喻，但在当今繁忙紧张的生活中，多数人都做不到这点，容易忘记这三个字所给对方带来的力量。

10. Do you remember that one time…?记得那次......的时候吗？

As the months and years go on, it can become easy to forget why we fell so hard for a person in the first place. Talk about that lovely day you met each other, laugh about that terribly embarrassing thing you said on your first date, and remind each other of your relationship’s Greatest Hits!岁月流逝，我们可能很容易就忘记当初是怎样被对方迷上的情景。回忆一下你们相见那一天的情景，聊一聊第一次约会的囧事来逗对方开心，回忆一下热恋阶段的开心情景。

11. Surprise your honey with coffee or breakfast in bed.把咖啡或早餐端到床上，给爱人来个惊喜。

This goes for you too, guys. Bring your partner a cup of coffee to help them start the morning energized with a quick caffeine hit (they will thank you for it!). If you’d really like to make them feel special, surprise them with a tray of their favorite breakfast foods. Two scrambled eggs, chopped berries, and a bit of yogurt would definitely do the trick.这一招对男生也很管用。早上给爱人端上一杯热咖啡开始这一天的生活（对方会对你深表感激之情的！）。要想让对方感受特别一些的话，就把对方最爱吃的早餐端到床上：两个煎蛋、草莓切块、一杯酸奶，就很有效果哦。

12. Invest in a babysitter!请保姆照看孩子！

If you’ve got kids, I know life can get busy, but it’s in your best interest to find a way to have some alone time with the special person in your life. Can’t afford to hire a sitter? Ask a parent or trusted friend to watch your Mini-Me in exchange for a thoughtful favor tailored to their needs. 有孩子的家庭生活让人手忙脚乱的，但是生活中最有意思的还是单独找时间和爱人享受一下甜蜜逍遥的二人时光。雇不起保姆？也好办，让父母或信得过的好朋友照看一下孩子，回头多给父母和朋友帮忙。

13. Snuggle.来个熊抱！

Just do it, trust me.给对方来个熊抱！相信我，也很管用的。

14. Be mindful of your partner’s interests.留心对方的兴趣爱好。

Fellas: I know you might not be that into romantic movies, but if your partner really wants to go see one, it will mean the world to her. It’s just two hours and you will survive, I promise! Ladies: Your man and his love of wrestling, Nascar, or whatever the case may be? Same goes for you!男士们：我知道你可能不会去看浪漫的爱情电影，但是如果对方真的想去看的话，这就代表她会陶醉在那个世界中。就两个小时而已，没什么大不了的，而且还能换来对方的开心。 女士们：他最爱看赛车等之类的节目的话，那么，同样你也陪他看一下！

15. Go to a movie (but don’t actually watch it).

去电影院看电影（但心思并不一定用在电影上）。

Go to a movie together and make-out like love-struck high school teenagers. I wouldn’t advise this if you’re going to see Schindler’s List, but otherwise it’ll be tons of fun!

一起去电影院，打扮成像刚坠入爱河热恋中的高中生。但不建议你看《辛德勒名单》类的电影，其他的电影会乐趣多多的。

16. “How was your day?”

“今天过得怎么样？”

Ask that simple question when your partner gets home from work to show them how much you care.

爱人下班回家简单问候一下，代表你很在意对方。

17. Focus!

专注对方。

Put down the phone, turn off the TV, make eye contact, and say, “What would you like to talk about?” Just because you’re hearing your partner’s words doesn’t mean you’re comprehending them. Taking a brief moment to do this will make them feel loved and important.

放下电话、关掉电视、两人对视，认真地问，“你想谈谈吗？” 因为你只是听到了他TA的话，并不代表你就真正理解TA的话。短短几分钟的专注交谈时间，关键在于这会让对方感受到那种被爱的感觉。

18. Blast from the past.

重温往日情怀。

If you’ve been together for a long time, think about some of the special places you went to in the early days of your relationship and revisit them in the present. I wager you’ll both be flooded by long-forgotten memories when you get there.

如果你们在一起已经很长时间了，考虑去一下恋爱时去过的地方重温一下过去的美好。到了那里你们都会陷入热恋那段美好回忆中。

19. Why so serious?

何必这么严肃认真呢？

Have tickle fights, go to a comedy club, make-out in a photo booth. Life doesn’t have to be so serious all the time, and laughter will help you grow closer to the person you love.

追着挠痒痒，去看喜剧演出，到电话亭打个调情电话。生活不必一味严肃认真的，笑声有助于你和爱人拉近关系。

20. Before you go to work…

上班前……

Tell your partner that you can’t wait to see them when you get back and give them a quick kiss.

上班出门前，对爱人说，等不及下班回家见啦！再亲吻一下对方。

21. Look at the stars.

数星星！

Grab a blanket, a bottle of wine, and the hand of your dearest. Lay under the stars, relax, look at the constellations, have a drink, and talk about life.

带上毯子、拿上瓶酒、和爱人手拉手去数星星。放松地躺在草地上，仰望星空中的星座，和爱人喝着酒谈着人生。

22. Take up a hobby.

培养一种爱好。

Dance class? Crafting? Gardening? Acting? A new language? Pick your pleasure. Figure out a hobby both you and your partner would enjoy and pursue it together to strengthen your relationship.

参加舞蹈班？手工艺班？园艺班？表演班？语言班？找自己感兴趣的事儿来做。找你和爱人一起都享受和追求的爱好来增进关系。

23. Ride a ferris wheel.

坐摩天轮！体验一下！

And don’t forget to get some cotton candy when you’re done!

坐摩天轮的时候，别忘了吃着棉花糖。

24. Dress up.

精心打扮一下。

Remember how when you were first dating and you spent hours agonizing over what you should wear? I’m not saying you have to take it to that extent, but some people do tend to let their style go downhill if they get too comfortable in a relationship. Turn the tables by dressing up as if it is your very first date together and you want to be certain you WOW them as much as possible.

还记得你们初次约会时，你用了多长时间打扮自己，绞尽脑汁地想自己到底该穿什么衣服。并不是说你打扮成初次约会时的样子，但有些情侣在进入稳定的关系后，就开始不注重自己的穿衣打扮了。一改常态就像初次约会一样精心打扮一下，给对方焕然一新的感觉。

25. Schedule a “play” date.

抽出一天时间，尽情“玩”上一天。

Have kids? It might be tough the find the time for intimacy, so plan to get a sitter one-day-per-week so you can have some alone time with your partner. Go out on a date and then come home, where the real fun begins. I know scheduling might not sound sexy in theory but it is in practice, and believe me, there’s nothing like a little anticipation to spice up your love life.

有孩子？二人很难有亲密时间，找保姆照看孩子，一周抽出一天和爱人单独相处的时间。出去一天再回家，这样才会感受到好戏刚开头而已。我知道理想很丰满现实很骨干的道理，但要相信，爱情生活中的小小期待是最美妙的。

26. Have a friendly competition.

打一场友谊赛。

Bowling, putt-putt, darts, pool, or even the Nintendo Wii all apply. Make a bet with your partner: the loser gives a full body massage to the winner.

保龄球、乒乓球、飞镖、游泳、抑或任天堂Wii什么都可以。和你的爱人打个赌：输家给赢家做全身按摩。

27. Surprise your love with a thoughtful gift.

给爱人精心挑选一个礼物。

I’m not talking about the obvious occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s, and so on — and I’m not suggesting you need to empty your bank account either. But surprise your partner with a little gift that will be meaningful for them when they least expect it if you want to brighten their day!

不建议在生日、纪念日、情人节等等的节日场合，也不建议你花光银行存款买个多么贵重的礼物。但要给爱人买个小礼物制造一个惊喜还是有意义的，他们对这一天也是很期望的！

28. Hold hands and go on a stroll.

手拉手出去散散步。

Enjoy each other’s presence in silence and be happy that you have such a special person in your life.

手拉手享受一下静静地散步的感受，这个很特别的人出现在你的生活中，让你过得无比幸福。