作者就写了这么短啊……...
Q: What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their twenties?
Q：20-30岁，应该学会的东西里面最难的是什么？
Answered by Arjuna Perkins
下面是Arjuna Perkins的解答
Here are some of the things my 20's have taught me.
二十岁教会了我如下几件事：
-1. Humility. This is the decade of failure. And that's ok - it's probably the first time in your life you've had to contend with most of the things you're taking on. Supporting yourself, managing your time / stress / relationships, figuring out what role you want work / study / spirituality / etc. to play in your life. Very few get through their 20's without some serious soul searching and questioning of fundamental beliefs and habits... And I don't envy those who do. This is the best time in your life to be making mistakes. It gets steadily less socially acceptable as you progress in age, so go crazy!
1.虚心好学：这是一个充满挫折的10年，不过不要紧，这可能是你人生中第一次感觉到做什么事情仿佛都跟自己作对一样。刚刚开始独立生活，自己控制时间，压力，人际关系。寻找自己的人生定位，想要明确后半生从事什么样的工作，研究，或精神理想，等等。很少有人在20多岁这个年纪里没有过，困惑，迷茫，自我怀疑的时候。如果有这样的人我也一点都不嫉妒他们。因为这个阶段是你人生中犯错的最好时候。这阶段不是建立社会阶层地位的主要时间段，所以可以尽可能的去做你想做的任何事情。
-2. Honesty. You don't get away with anything. Anything. If you're full of it, people will see that, no matter how vainly you struggle to hide it. The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with yourself and the world at large, the sooner you'll be able to get working towards what you really want, who you really want to be. That ugly person you may think you are inside is actually going to be the most compelling, most interesting, most powerful manifestation of yourself.
2.坦诚处世：你不能把任何缺点都甩掉，无论多小的缺点。你有什么缺点，不管你怎么费尽心机的去掩饰它，别人早晚都会发现的。也许是好事不出门，坏事传千里。所以你越早的坦诚自己，让别人随意的去讲自己的缺点，你就会越早的知道自己想要什么，或者想要成为什么样的人。这样你会发现：原本内心里最具缺点的那个自己却变成了一个，最吸引人，最有趣，最牛逼的自己。
-3. Health. You also don't get away with self-abuse. Just because you can stay up all night drinking doesn't mean it's not taking its toll on your body. You get a bit older, and you start to meet people in their 30s, 40s, 50s who kept up that lifestyle, and believe me, you don't want to be one of them. Have your fun, but remember: they call it excess for a reason. Eat well (whatever that means to you), get exercise, get enough sleep, and try to have a steady sex life if you possibly can.
3.健康生活：你可能会放纵自己的生活，因为你可以成宿的不睡觉，能喝不代表喝酒对身体就没有伤害。当你再过几年，会遇到很多30，40，50依然过着放纵生活的人，我敢说，看到他们你不会也想变成那样的。好好的享受青春时光，但是要记得，不要过份的消耗自己的身体。规律饮食（不管自己多忙），经常锻炼，充足睡眠，保持稳定的性生活（如果可能的话）。
-4. Having said that, pay close attention to who you find yourself attracted to. They will tell you more about yourself than almost anything else.
4.话又说回来，要尽可能的多与那些跟你走的很近的人交流，他们会让你更加清晰地认识自己是什么样子的。
-5. Get used to being wrong. Conviction can be a symptom of narrow-mindedness. Chances are, whatever you believe now will be out the window at some point in your future, so get used to being open to other assessments of what's true. Chances are also that someone out there - maybe a lot of someones - knows a lot more about X, Y and Z than you do. Let go of having to be right about things - this isn't a contest. It's not a game. You don't win at life. So say, "Thanks for your perspective. I'll think about that." or "I was wrong. I'm sorry."
5.正视错误：刚愎自用是性格狭隘的表现。没准，将来有一天你会发现你以前认为正确的东西其实与正确答案相去甚远，所以要尽可能的去听听别人的议见。或许，外面有很多，很多人在X，Y或Z上比你更懂。谁对谁错没什么大不了，对错不是比赛，没有什么输赢的。就算是比赛你也不能赢一辈子。所以要跟别人说：“谢谢你的观点，我会好好想想。”或者“对不起，我错了。”
-6. Perseverance. You will fail in life, over and over and over. It won't feel fair. Maybe for decades. You've got to keep moving forward. Keep going. Keep going!
6.坚持拼搏：人生中你可能会面对一次又一次的失败，也许会一直失败好多年，从而觉着老天对你特别不公平。但是你必须要向前看，一直，一直的向前看。
Oh, and don't forget to have fun along the way! Enjoy any moment you possibly can.
哦，当然不能忘记在人生旅途中寻找快乐，同时尽可能的去享受每一刻。
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