9 Ugly Truths About Modern Dating That You Have To Deal With
9个有关现代约会的丑陋事实！
1. The person who cares less has all the power. Nobody wants to be the one who's more interested.
谁爱的少一点谁就掌握主动权。谁也不愿意做那个更喜欢对方的人。
2.Because we want to show how cavalier and blasé we can be to the other person, little psychological games like 'Intentionally Take Hours Or Days To Text Back' will happen. They aren't fun.
我们都想让对方认为我们其实没那么在乎TA，于是就都在玩“故意过好几天才回短信”的游戏，其实一点都不好玩。
3. A person being carefree because they have zero interest in you looks exactly like a person being carefree because they think you're amazing & are making a conscious effort to play it cool. Good luck deciphering between the two.
一个因为对你没兴趣所以表现得完全不在乎的人，和一个对你很有兴趣但不想让你认为他对你很有兴趣因此故意表现得完全不在乎的人，看起来是一样的。所以，祝你能分辨清楚。
4.Set plans are dead. If you aren't the top priority, your invitation to spend time will be given a “Maybe” or “I'll let you know” and the deciding factor(s) will be if that person has offers more fun/interesting than you on the table.
提前策划（浪漫约会）是没用的。如果对方没把你当回事儿，很可能你的邀请得到的答复是“可能吧”、“我到时候告诉你”。最终的答案取决于对方有没有收到比你更有意思的邀请。
5.Someone who hurt you isn't automatically going to have bad karma. At least not in the immediate future. I know it only seems fair, but sometimes people cheat and betray and move on happily while the person they left is in shambles.
伤害了你的人很可能不会得到报应。至少不会立即得到吧。我知道这看起来不公平，可是很多时候劈腿背叛的人会开开心心地开始下一段，而被甩的那个人却活得很悲摧。
6. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That's it, that's all.
你的行为是“浪漫”还是“变态”的唯一标准就是，对方对你有没有意思。嗯，其实就是这么回事儿。
7. Social media creates new temptations and opportunities to cheat. The private messaging and options for subtle flirtation (e.g. liking of pictures) aren't an excuse or validation for cheating, but they certainly increase the chances of it happening.
社交网络给劈腿创造了更多的诱惑和机会。发私信或者赞对方的照片并不代表着出轨，但绝对增加了出轨的几率。
8.Any person you get romantically involved with you'll either wind up staying with forever or breaking up with them at some point. These are equally terrifying concepts.
任何一个和你在一起的人，你们之间只有两种结局，要么永远在一起，要么某一天会分开。这两种未来都同样可怕啊。
9.You aren't likely to see much of someone's genuine, unfiltered self until you're in an actual relationship with him or her. Generally people are scared that sincerely putting themselves out there will result in finding out that they’re too anxious, too nerdy, too boring, not funny enough, not pretty enough, not some other person enough to be embraced.
只有你和一个人真正确定了恋爱关系之后，才能看见真实的没有加滤镜的对方。通常，人们害怕一旦将真实的自己坦诚地表现出来的时候，别人会觉得自己过于焦虑、太烦人、太无聊、不够风趣、不够漂亮，不是对方喜欢的。
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