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情商高不高?看看这18个特征就知道

情商(EQ)在近些年来已经成为职场的热门话题之一了,拥有高智商不再是用人单位录取的唯一因素,相比起来,高抗压力,懂得为他人着想,有自我意识的人才更受青睐。下面这篇文章,为你讲述高情商人士所特有的品质。

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

情商是我们每个人内在的某种无形的“东西”。它影响着我们如何控制自己的行为,处理社交关系,以及为达到正面效果而做出的个人抉择。

You can always take a scientifically validated test, such as the one that comes with the Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book.

你的确可以进行科学有效的情商测试,比如从Emotional Intelligence 2.0的书中可以得到结果。

What follows are sure signs that you have a high EQ.

下面的这些迹象,如果你都拥有了,那么就证明你拥有了很高的情商。

1.You Have a Robust Emotional Vocabulary 拥有丰富的情感词汇。

All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur.

每个人都会有情感,但仅仅有很少一部分人能够准确地描述出来。

People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.”

拥有高情商的人通常都能控制自己的情绪,因为他们理解这些情绪,并使用大量的情感词汇来描述它们。当一般人把感觉简单地描述为“感觉不好”,情商高的人能够指出自己所感觉的是“烦躁的”,“沮丧的”,“压抑的”或“不安的”。

2.You’re Curious about People 对人很感兴趣。

Emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them.

情商高的人都对身边的人很好奇。

This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more curiosity you’re going to have about them.

这种好奇心源自于同理心,一种达到高情商水平的重要表现。你越关心身边的人以及他们的状况,你对他们的好奇心就越强。

3.You Embrace Change 接受改变。

Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting.

情商高的人们通常都很灵活并能随机应变。

They look for change that is lurking just around the corner, and they form a plan of action should these changes occur.

他们寻找潜伏在周围的改变迹象,并能制定计划以应对情况的改变。

4.You Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses 了解自己的优缺点。

Emotionally intelligent people know what they’re good at and what they’re terrible at.

高情商的人清楚了解自己所擅长的和不擅长的。

They also know who pushes their buttons and the environments (both situations and people) that enable them to succeed.

他们也知道哪些人驱使他们以及周遭环境(地利,人和)让他们获得成功。

5.You’re a Good Judge of Character 善于识别性格特点。

Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness; the ability to read other people, know what they’re about, and understand what they're going through.

大多数的情商因素都与社会意识有关,也就是能够读懂他人的心,了解他们的情况,揣摩他们的心理状况。

Over time, this skill makes you an exceptional judge of character. People are no mystery to you. You know what they’re all about and understand their motivations, even those that lie hidden beneath the surface.

随着时间的流逝,这项技能会让你成为一名出类拔萃的性格裁判。你能读透人们的心思。你理解他们的情况以及他们的动机,甚至那些隐藏在谎言背后的真相。

6.You Are Difficult to Offend 不易动怒。

Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.

情商高的人都很有自信和心胸广阔,所以多多少少有点厚脸皮。

You may even poke fun at yourself or let other people make jokes about you because you are able to mentally draw the line between humor and degradation.

甚至你会自嘲或让别人取笑你,因为你能够很清晰地分辨幽默与讽刺的区别。

7.You Know How to Say No (to Yourself and Others). 懂得拒绝(自己或他人)。

Emotional intelligence means knowing how to exert self-control.

情商高意味着知道如何自控。

You delay gratification, and you avoid impulsive action. Emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not certain.” Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.

你喜欢先苦后甜,拒绝冲动。情商高的人都会避免使用诸如“我不觉得我可以”或“我不确定”这样的说法。而是对新的承诺说“不”,这样其实能够为你建立信用,并为你提供机会更成功地履行承诺。

8.You Let Go of Mistake 放下错误。

Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.

情商高的人尽可能远离错误,但不会把它们遗忘。

9.You Give and Expect Nothing in Return 付出且不求回报。

When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression.

当有人自愿给予你一点什么,并且不要求你的回报,这样会给别人留下很深刻的印象。

Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.

情商高的人能够与他人建立很好的人际关系,因为他们随时随地都在为他人着想。

10.You Don’t Hold Grudges 不记仇。

The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response.

记恨的负面情绪实际上是一种应激反应的表现。

Letting go of a grudge not only makes you feel better now but can also improve your health.

放下哀怨不仅让你感觉良好还会有助健康。

11.You Neutralize Toxic People 中和负面情绪的人群。

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most.

很多情况下与难相处的人打交道确实会让自己身心疲惫。

High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their own emotions and don’t allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos.

情商高的人能够控制自己不与负面情绪的人群接触。但当他们与这些人接触时,他们就会理性地应对。他们能够清楚自己的情绪并控制怒气避免火上浇油。

12.You Don’t Seek Perfection 舍弃对完美的追求。

Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist.

高情商的人不会把完美作为自己的最终目标,因为他们很清楚完美是根本不可能的。

13.You Appreciate What You Have 珍惜目前所有。

Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%.花点时间来反思自己所感恩的事情不仅是件好事情,还能够让你的心情变好,因为这能够减少23%的压力荷尔蒙。

Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy, and physical well-being. It’s likely that lower levels of cortisol played a major role in this.

来自加州大学的学者Davis进行了一项研究,发现每天能够培养感恩态度的人心情会更好,精力更充沛,身体更强壮。这与低水平的皮质醇所发挥的作用是相当的。

14.You Disconnect适当与外界断联。

Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment.

找时间隔绝人群是高情商的表现,因为这能够帮助你控制压力并感受生活。

When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors. Forcing yourself offline and even—gulp!—turning off your phone gives your body and mind a break.

当你每周每天都随时待命,你就让自己处于一个不断受到压力影响的环境。迫使自己断绝联系,甚至——啪!关上手机,给自己的身心一个休息的机会。

15.You Limit Your Caffeine Intake 控制咖啡因的摄取。

Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine ensures you stay this way as it takes its sweet time working its way out of your body.

摄取过量的咖啡因会长时效性让你持续情绪高涨,久久无法平静。

High-EQ individuals know that caffeine is trouble, and they don’t let it get the better of them.

高情商的人了解咖啡因是个潘多拉的宝盒,并不让自己去接触它。

16.You Get Enough Sleep 保持充足的睡眠。

It’s difficult to overstate the importance of sleep to increasing your emotional intelligence and managing your stress levels.

实际上很难通过言语去夸大睡眠对提高情商和控制压力的重要性。

High-EQ individuals know that their self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when they don’t get enough—or the right kind—of sleep. So, they make sleep a top priority.

高情商的人知道如果没有足够的睡眠,自控力,专注力和注意力都会降低。所以,他们把睡眠当作自己的首要事情。

17.You Stop Negative Self-Talk in Its Tracks 停止自我否定。

The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Most of our negative thoughts are just that—thoughts, not facts.

你越反思负面的想法,你就越来越消极。大多数的负面想法都仅仅是想法而已,并不是事实。当你感觉到某些事情总是发生或从不发生,这仅仅是因为你的大脑主动接受威胁的自然趋势(夸大事情的频率和严重程度)。

Emotionally intelligent people separate their thoughts from the facts in order to escape the cycle of negativity and move toward a positive, new outlook.

情商高的人能够把想法和事实分离开来,以此脱离负面的恶性循环,走向积极的,全新的观点。

18.You Won’t Let Anyone Limit Your Joy 不让他人影响自己的乐趣。

When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or snide remarks take that away from them.

高情商的人对自己所做的事情感觉良好,他们不会受别人的观点或暗讽所影响。

While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt.

当你无法脱离别人对你的看法时,你也不必与他们比较,就可以远离其他人的评头论足了。

That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.

因此,无论别人说了什么或做了什么,你的自我价值都只来源于自己的内心。

文章内容来源:可可英语

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