1. You'll regret every time taking a job solely for money
每次只为钱接受一份工作，你会后悔
If you have taken jobs for money and you felt unhappy, ending up getting fired or quitting, you may not have realized the feeling of regret. I mean, who doesn't like money? But, the effect of jobs that aren't right, that don't motivate you and that don't teach you anything are missed opportunities. Do what you love and don't feel guilty about it. The money will follow.
如果你因为钱而做一份工作，却感到不开心，最终被解雇或辞职，你或许还没有意识到后悔。我的意思是，谁不喜欢钱呢？但是，一份不合适，不能激励你，不能教会你任何事情的工作造成的影响就是错失机会。做自己喜欢的事情，不要为此感到愧疚。钱会随之而来。
2. You'll regret every time not taking an opportunity
每次错失机会，你会后悔
Whether it's to learn something about your career field or an opportunity to learn anything, you should take it. Barring things that literally kill you, experience is what life is all about.
无论是学习专业领域知识的机会，还是学习任何事情的机会，你都应该把握。除了会真的杀了你的事情，各种经历都是生活的一部分。
3. You'll regret every time sending an email/text when you're angry
每次生气时发送电子邮件或短信，你会后悔
I've learned to quell the desire to return fire in an electronic form of communication. Something about accessibility and the ability to quickly communicate makes us think we should act…without thinking. At times, I've sent things in anger that I didn't mean because I misinterpreted the situation. Plain and simple, let your emotions settle and take the soot to compose a thought-out letter after the initial anger subsides.
我已经学会平息使用电子通讯方式还击的冲动。易接近性和快速沟通的能力让我们认为应该不假思索地行动。有时由于误解，我会出离愤怒地发送一些违背本意的内容。让情绪稳定下来，当最初的愤怒平息后，用简单明了的语言撰写一封深思熟虑的信件。
4. You'll regret every time cheating on partner
每次对伴侣不忠，你会后悔
If you honestly don't feel guilty or ashamed after cheating on your partner then you're possible a sociopath. If a relationship isn't working out, have the intestinal fortitude to admit it. Life goes by rapidly, but never so fast that you don't have time to decide which lover you want to be with at any one moment. If you're drunk at a bar or horny on a cruise, follow the same advice as emailing angry–and wait. Hurting other people selfishly is one of the biggest reasons to feel guilty. If you are moving on from one relationship with a person you met through cheating, will you truly trust that person not to cheat on you?
如果你背叛伴侣后没有一丝内疚或羞愧，那你可能是反社会人士。如果感情难以维系，鼓起勇气承认。生命总是快速流逝，但任何时候都不至于没时间决定想要共度一生的伴侣。如果你在酒吧醉酒或在旅途中欲火中烧，遵循与愤怒时发邮件同样的建议——等待。自私地伤害他人是导致愧疚最大的原因。如果你背叛一段感情，移情他人，你真的相信对方不会背叛你吗？
5. You'll regret every time telling off your boss upon quitting
辞职时责备老板，你会后悔
One of my coworkers used to joke about putting in his resignation by putting a pile of poop in an expensive store product. We would laugh and commiserate, but no one ever expected he would do it–and he never did. When you work for someone or some place, you have a responsibility to act as a professional. Even if your boss is the world's biggest jerk, you don't fix another person's attitude by acting like a bigger ass. So, if you feel like you need to “settle the score,” when leaving a job, think over what you’re most upset about. Write it out in a nasty letter, but don't send it! Wait a day or two. If you still feel the need to confront a former employer, do so with tact and without emotion.
我的一位同事经常开玩笑说，他辞职的时候要把一堆大便放在昂贵的商场产品里送给老板。我们会大笑，会同情，但是从来没有人认为他真的会这样做——他确实也从未这样做。当你为某人或某个地方工作的时候，你有责任表现得职业化。即使你的老板是世界上最大的混蛋，你也不能以其人之道还治其人之身。所以，如果你觉得离职的时候需要“报仇”，仔细考虑最让你不满的是什么。把这些全都发泄到一封书信中，但是不要邮寄出去！等待一两天。如果你仍然觉得有必要反抗你的前雇主，也要做得有技巧，不掺杂感情色彩。
6. You’ll regret every time putting off a passion/an interest
每次拖延兴趣或热情，你会后悔
Author Russell Blake recently published a rant about running into a friend who acknowledged Blake’s career as a writer by saying he wanted to write a book too, but didn’t have the time. I loved this post because it proved to me once again that doing what one loves–especially when it’s in the arts–is not about a hobby. Passions are nature’s way of encouraging us silly humans. While your passion may be medicine or law, others thrive on painting or writing. The work one must put into a passion means time. If you put off the things you feel most strongly about, you will regret it. You won’t find time to start a poem let alone a book if you wait until the kids are grown or you can retire. Same thing for playing an instrument or learning to paint. Invest the time when the passion strikes.
作家罗素·布莱克最近发表了一篇文章，说自己遇到了一位朋友。这位朋友认可了布莱克的作家生涯，并表示自己也想写一本书，但是没有时间。我很喜欢这篇文章，因为这再次向我证明，做自己喜爱的事情——尤其是艺术领域——不仅仅是业余爱好的问题。热情是大自然激励我们愚蠢的人类的方式。你爱好的或许是医学或法律，其他人则喜欢油画或写作。人必须向热情中倾注的就是时间。如果你拖延有着强烈兴趣的事情，你会后悔。如果你想等到孩子长大，或者你退休的时候，那你永远都不会有时间写一首诗，更别说出一本书了。玩乐器或学油画也是如此。当热情高昂的时候，多投入一点时间吧。
7. You’ll regret every time not spending time with loved ones
没时间陪你爱的人，你会后悔
Maybe you don’t see eye-to-eye with your dad, and maybe your dog really is your best friend, but I guarantee that you will feel more stressed and less productive when you don’t spend enough time with those you love. Don’t push too hard to impress the boss and get a promotion at the expense of a yearly family vacation. Kids want more than anything to spend time with their parents, so I promise you they will be more impressed with a weekend camping trip than with an expensive token.
或许你不能与父亲坦诚相见，或许你的狗是你最好的朋友，但是我可以保证，如果你没有花费足够的时间陪你爱的人，你会感到压力巨大，效率低下。不要花费太多时间给老板留下好印象，牺牲每年的家庭假期来换取升职的机会。孩子最希望的就是父母的陪伴，所以，我承诺，与昂贵的礼物相比，难忘的周末野营更让他们印象深刻。
8. You’ll regret every time staying at a dead-end job
继续没有前途的工作，你会后悔
Look around the office. If you know you aren’t moving up unless someone dies, then maybe you should look for a job where you can prove yourself and be rewarded for your contributions. Money is important when it comes to paying the mortgage and keeping food on the table, but life is too short to waste it chasing the almighty dollar. If you work to live, you’ve got it backwards and you should think about how you can make a living pursuing things that mean more to you. Your spirit will thank you for it even if you have moments where dinner has to be charged to a credit card.
环顾一下办公室，如果你知道，除非某个人去世，否则你永远不可能晋升，那么，或许你应该重新找一份可以证明自己的价值，付出可以得到回报的工作了。你要偿还贷款，要养家糊口，钱当然非常重要。但是生命非常短暂，不能全部浪费在追求万能的金钱上。如果你工作是为了生存，那么你就本末倒置了。你应该思考一下，如何通过追求对你来说更重要的事情来谋生。你的精神会得到满足，即使有一段时间经济拮据，必须通过信用卡来购买晚餐。
9. You’ll regret every time let fear dictate decisions
让恐惧支配决定，你会后悔
Just like staying in a dead-end job because you fear unemployment or think you cannot survive without another paycheck, when fear guides your decisions you make mistakes. You do things out of fear–or rather you don’t do things because of fear. Many of the items on this list play into the idea of taking calculated risks and making the most of every day.
就像待在没有前途的工作岗位一样，由于害怕失业或者担心没有收入生活难以为继，让恐惧支配你的决定，这样你就错了。由于恐惧而做某些事——更确切地说，由于恐惧而不做某些事。本篇文章中的许多条款都教给你如何承担适当的风险，充分利用每一天。
10. You’ll regret dropping out of school for no good reason.
没有正当理由辍学，你会后悔
Though life often “gets in the way,” remember that LIFE is what you make of it. Often, people drop out of school and think they can always go back later. This isn’t always the case and if you are pursuing a dream that requires a formal education (like being a doctor or nurse), then try not to give it up. If you need to take a leave of absense for personal reasons, do so, but try and get back at it.
尽管生活经常有很多不如意的地方，但是要记住，生活是由你来理解的。通常，人们辍学的时候认为他们稍后可以回来。但是事与愿违，如果你追求的梦想要求正式教育（例如做医生或护士），那么尽量不要放弃。如果由于个人原因需要休学，那就暂时这样做，但是要尽量重返校园。
11. You’ll regret every time not telling loved ones how you feel
不告诉爱的人你的感受，你会后悔
As with making sure you spend enough time with those you love, making sure you are open and honest with your feelings is just as important. Holding hurt feelings back often leads to resentment, which can lead to infidelity in a marriage. Worse yet is when we race through life too busy to say “I love you,” and the unthinkable happens. It takes mere seconds to hug and kiss your loved ones so do it often and don’t hold back when you feel an emotion–unless it’s anger, in which case you should calm down and communicate rationally to move forward.
和花费足够的时间陪你爱的人一样，确保经常开诚布公地说出自己的感受也同样重要。将受伤的感受深埋心底会导致怨恨，进一步导致婚姻中的不贞。更糟糕的是，当我们忙着生活，没有时间说“我爱你”的时候，意想不到的事情就会发生。拥抱和亲吻你爱的人只需几秒钟，所以经常这样做。当你心中情感涌动时，不要压抑——除非是愤怒情绪，这种时候你应该冷静下来，理性地沟通。
12. You’ll regret every time letting friends slip away
每次忽略朋友，你会后悔
Okay, I admit this is another of those that you may not experience regret from every time. If you choose to move on from a stagnant or negative relationship, that is different than forgetting to invest the time to be a friend to keep a friend. It’s not always about what you want to talk about; call a friend and make sure he or she doesn’t need an ear.
好吧，我承认，这个因素也不会让你每次都感到后悔。如果你决定结束一段停滞不前或消极负面的恋情，与忘记投入时间维系友情是截然不同的。维系友情与谈论什么内容无关，有空打个电话，看看他们是否需要你的倾听。
13. You’ll regret every time yelling at your kids
每次向孩子大吼大叫，你会后悔
This one probably hits close to home for most parents–at least, it does for me. I’m guilty of letting the stress get to me and yelling at the kids. In my defense, they seem to purposefully infuriate me. The way my 3-year-old stares me down–understanding exactly what I am saying not to do, and then doing it–ruffles my feathers in unimaginable ways. I’ve never hit either of my kids (my youngest is now 18 months old), but I feel guilty every time I yell at them because I know that yelling doesn’t accomplish anything. Other than to scare them into wandering into traffic, yelling just makes stress worse.
可能大部分父母都会遇到这一点——至少对我来说是如此。我有时感到压力很大，就会向孩子吼叫，对此我感到很愧疚。从我的角度来看，他们似乎有意激怒我。我三岁的孩子总是无视我，他完全明白我说的不能去做，却依然去做，这让我难以想象地抓狂。我从来没有打过任何一个孩子（我最小的孩子现在18个月），但是每次向他们吼叫之后我都会感到内疚，因为我知道，大喊大叫没有任何效果。吼叫不能让他们乖乖听话，只会让你感到压力更大。
14. You’ll regret every time stress eating
压力性暴饮暴食，你会后悔
Eh, you won’t regret stress eating every time, and sometimes comfort food is a good way to indulge in life’s finer things. But, the truth is that stress eating in and of itself is unhealthy because the act of fulfilling a nutritional need with junk food is like a junkie using drugs. Make conscious choices to indulge in fine chocolate or calorie laden dessert every once in a while and don’t let stress be your guide.
呃，或许不是每次暴饮暴食后都会后悔，有时安慰食品是享受生活中美好事物的好方法。但事实是，压力性暴饮暴食本身是不健康的，因为用垃圾食品满足营养需求就像吸毒者吸毒一样。偶尔有意识地放纵自己享用精美的巧克力和热量很高的甜品，但不要让压力支配自己。
15. You’ll regret every time drunken posting on social media
醉后在社交媒体发言，你会后悔
This should go without saying, but obviously many of us post drunk. We shouldn’t. Just like with holding emotions until we can “see clearly,” holding off on saying anything social can wait until we’re sober.
这一点应该不必说，但是很明显，我们很多人都会醉酒后在社交网站发表留言。我们不应该这样，应该控制自己的情绪，直到能够“清晰地思考”。不要说任何社交性的话，直到头脑清醒。
16. You’ll regret every time ranting on social media
在社交媒体上咆哮，你会后悔
This is again one of those things that you may not consciously realize you regret, but your over-the-top political posts and rants about how much you hate your service providers causes others to perceive you in ways you’d regret if you knew better. Just because a status or profile is set to “private” doesn’t guarantee the wrong person won’t see it. Rant with caution because even if you don’t immediately see the error of your ways, you will with enough distance. Some things simply aren’t worth it.
这又是一件你做过之后可能不会意识到自己后悔的事情，但是你过激的政治言论和憎恨服务提供机构的斥责会让其他人对你产生不好的看法，当你意识到之后，你会后悔得无以复加。仅仅把状态或资料设置为“隐私”并不能保证不相关的人看不到。谨慎地发言，因为即使你不能立即看到错误带来的后果，也要保持警惕。有些事情根本不值得做。
17. Sharing a secret someone told you in confidence
泄露他人告诉你的秘密，你会后悔
When you betray your friends’ trust you prove yourself to be an unworthy friend. Even if the person isn’t someone you’d classify as a “friend,” betraying confidence will only make others perceive you as a gossip at best.
当你背叛了朋友的信任，你会证明自己是个不称职的朋友。即使你没把对方归入“朋友”的类别，泄漏秘密也只会让其他人认为你充其量是个很八卦的人。
18. You’ll regret every time succumbing to peer pressure
屈服于同伴压力，你会后悔
Just like when you take a job for money or stay in a dead-end job out of fear, when you succumb to peer pressure you project an image of being a follower. You want to be a brave leader in life. Taking calculated risks and losing is better than always agreeing to do what everyone else is doing just because that may be easier.
就像为了钱而工作或者出于恐惧待在一份没有前途的工作岗位，当你屈服于同伴压力，你会树立追随者的形象。在生活中，你想成为勇敢的领导者。承担适当的风险，即使失败也比人云亦云更好，尽管从众更加简单。
19. You’ll regret every time belittling someone else
贬低他人，你会后悔
A huge, fat line of difference exists between constructive criticism and belittling. Most of us know what it feels like to be wrongly judged too quickly, but we should all appreciate the opportunity to grow from feedback. When you belittle someone, you will regret it because belittling others makes you nothing more than a bully.
有建设性的批评和贬低之间存在巨大的鸿沟。我们大部分人都能理解被武断而错误地判断是什么感受，但是我们都应该珍惜从反馈中成长的机会。当你贬低他人的时候，你会后悔，因为这只会让你看上去像欺凌者。
20. You’ll regret every time listening to Nickelback
听五分钱乐队的歌，你会后悔
Ha ha, I’m kidding, not belittling Nickelback’s music. The controversy and “peer pressure” to hate something is a perfect point that supports many of the things on my list. Before you decide to join your friends in a laugh at the expense of any artist or individual, take the time to make your own decision. Nickelback isn’t so bad. Overrated by some and bashed brutally by others, but as with anything in life, you’ll regret what you do without thinking first.
哈哈，我是开玩笑的，不是贬低五分钱乐队的音乐。争议和憎恨某个事物的“同伴压力”是支撑我这份清单上许多论点的重点。在你决定和好友一起嘲笑任何艺术家或个人的时候，花点时间自己做决定。五分钱乐队并没有那么差。有些被过高估计，有些被恶意中伤，但是像生活中许多事情一样，如果你没有认真思考，你就会后悔。
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