幸福生活的二十一种习惯21 Habits of Happy People
“幸福是一种需要培育的习惯。”阿尔伯特·哈伯德。“Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” ~ Elbert Hubbard
所有的人都渴望幸福，没有人想要悲伤与沮丧。Happiness is one aspiration all people share. No one wants to be sad and depressed.
我们都见过那种即使面对痛苦的生活磨炼仍然时常感到幸福的人。我并不是说他们感觉不到悲伤和痛苦，而只是不让这些感情占据自己的生活。以下是使幸福成为习惯要做的二十一件事：We’ve all seen people who are always happy – even amidst agonizing life trials. I’m not saying happy people don’t feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing:
1.珍惜生命1. Appreciate Life
感谢每天早晨醒时我们还能活着。对生活要培养一种儿童般的好奇心。关注每种生物的美。努力过好每一天。不要觉得任何事是理所当然的。别为小事情纠结不已。Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
2.用心择友2. Choose Friends Wisely
选择那些幸福快乐、积极向上，与你持相同价值观和目标的人做朋友。具有同样道德伦理的朋友会鼓励你去实现自己的梦想。他们能帮你树立自信。当你需要帮助的时候，他们总能伸出援手。Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.
3.体谅他人3. Be Considerate
生活中要能包容不同性格与不同地位的人。尊重他们本来的样子，用和善的精神和宽阔的胸怀与他们接触。有能力时就要提供帮助，但不要试图改变他人。努力去照亮所有与您接触的人的生活。Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.
4.不断学习4. Learn Continuously
不论是事业还是兴趣方面的资讯，都要保持与时俱进。尝试新鲜大胆并且能够激起您兴趣的事情，譬如跳舞、滑雪、冲浪或跳伞。Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.
5.创造性地解决问题5. Creative Problem Solving
不要沉湎于自怜。只要面临挑战，就应该积极寻找解决办法。不要让挫折影响自己的心情；相反，应该把面前的障碍看作一个能带来积极改变的机会。要学会信任直觉，这样做几乎永远没有错。Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.
6.做他们喜欢的事6. Do What They Love
有统计显示，80%的人不喜欢自己的工作！难怪我们的周围有那么多不开心的人。毕竟人的一生中，大量的时间都在工作。选择自己喜欢的职业——就算你憎恶的工作能带来的额外金钱，那也是不值得的。不如把时间花在享受自己的爱好、追寻自己的特殊兴趣上吧。Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.
7.享受生活7. Enjoy Life
花点时间看看身边的美。生活的美比工作中的美更多。停下来闻闻玫瑰的花香，带自己所爱的人去看日出日落，在海岸漫步，在树林里远足。学会生活在当下，珍惜现在。不要沉浸于过去或幻想未来。Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.
8.笑8. Laugh
对自己或者对生活不必过于认真。任何情况下都能找到幽默。多点自嘲吧，人没有十全十美的。有了恰当的笑，周围的环境都会变得轻松起来。（当然，有些时候一定要严肃，这时再发出笑声就不合适。）Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)
9.宽恕9. Forgive
怀恨在心，伤害的只有自己。为了自己心灵的平静，原谅别人吧。自己犯了错误，就要坦白承认，总结教训，然后记得原谅自己。Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.
10.感激10. Gratitude
要培养一种感激的态度。数数自己所遇的幸运事情；一个都不要遗漏，即使那些看上去微不足道的事情。对自己的家、工作，尤其是自己的家人和朋友，要心存感激。不要吝惜时间地去告诉别人，你因为他们的存在而感到幸福。Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.
11.投资人际关系11. Invest in Relationships
即使发生了冲突，也一定要让自己所爱的人知道你爱着他们。多花时间与家人和朋友在一起，好好培育及发展与他们的关系。切勿破坏你对他们许下的承诺。一定要对他们给予支持。Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.
12.履行诺言12. Keep Their Word
诚实至上。你的每个行动及每项决定都必须建立在诚实基础之上。对自己、对所爱的人一定要诚实。Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.
13.沉思13. Meditate
冥思会让非常活跃的大脑有个休息的机会。大脑得到休息，你就会有更多的能量，能表现得更好。冥思的类型包括瑜伽、催眠、让人放松的磁带、誓词及影视资料，或者悄然无声的坐着。找点你喜欢的东西，抽时间每天练习。Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.
14.别管别人的闲事14. Mind Their Own Business
集中精力创造自己想要的生活方式。照顾好自己和家人。不要过分关心其他人做什么或说什么。不要陷入流言八卦或中伤别人的勾当。不要动辄给人或事下定论。每个人有权按照他们所希望的方式生活，你也一样。Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.
15.乐观态度15. Optimism
与其说只剩下半杯水，都不如说还有半杯水。无论在何时何地，都要看到好的一面。事实上，潜在的积极性即使难以被发现，仍然是存在的。明白没有什么事是无缘无故发生的，尽管你未必能认识到其中的真正缘由。远离负面情绪。当消极心理来袭时，就要用积极心态把它替换掉。See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.
16.无条件去爱16. Love Unconditionally
无条件地接受他人的真实一面。不要对自己爱的情感加上限制。即使所爱的人未必能永远讨你的喜欢，你还是该一如既往去爱他们。Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.
17.坚持17. Persistence
永不言弃。面对每个新挑战时，都要采取一种使自己更能接近目标的姿态。只要不放弃，就无谓失败。专注于自己想要的，学习所需的技能，制定成功的计划，然后采取行动。人总是在追求对自己有价值的东西的过程中才感到最幸福。Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.
18.积极主动18. Be Proactive
接受那些不能改变的东西。幸福的人从来不将精力浪费在自己无法控制的情况上。接受自己作为一个人的局限。要寻找通过创造自己希望的结果来实现驾驭的途径，而不要被动地等待响应。Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.
19.照顾好自己19. Self Care
照顾好自己的心灵、身体以及健康。定期检查身体。健康饮食，参加锻炼，充分休息。多饮用水。用有趣和令人兴奋的挑战来不断地激活、锻炼大脑。Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.
20.自信20. Self Confidence
要做自己。毕竟，没有人喜欢装腔作势的人。明确内在的你到底是什么样的人——你自己究竟喜欢什么，不喜欢的什么。对真实的自己要充满信心。做自己最拿手的事情，不要老怀疑自己。Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.
21.承担责任21. Take Responsibility
幸福的人深知他们对自己的生活负完全的责任。他们自己的情绪、态度、思想、情感、行动及语言负责。犯了错误，他们总是首先承认。Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.
对自己的幸福负责，从今天开始。挽起袖子，培育这些习惯，并使他们成为自己生活中自然而然的一部分。将以上习惯越多地纳入自己日常生活方式，那么你就越容易感到幸福。Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.
最重要的是：忠于自己。Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.
作者：辛迪·霍尔布鲁克Author: Cindy Holbrook
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