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So I am reprising a talk that I gave in september at
我在卡耐基梅隆大学九月份做了一次演讲，现在我在这里来再次作这个演讲。"最后一个讲座"在卡耐基梅隆大学是一个学术传统。假如说，如果你知道你即将离开这个世界，你可以做最后一次讲座，你会对你的学生讲些什么？（注：其实在美国的很多大学都有类似的" last lecture”系列讲座，比如说Stanford大学，Alabama大学，通常是让学校的著名教授来假设这是他们最后的讲演，那么什么对他们来说是最重要的，也就是说，在最后的时刻，把他们最希望分享给这个世界的人生智慧告诉所有的观众。）
Well, for me, there is an elephant in the room. The elephant in the room that for me is not hypothetical. I have been fighting pancreatic cancer. It is now coming back after surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. And the doctors are telling me there is nothing more to do and I have months to live. These are my most recent CT scans. The pancreatic cancer is spread to my liver and there are approximately a dozen tumors. I don't like this. I have three little kids. Let's be clear, this stinks. But I can not do anything about the fact that I am going to die. I am pursuing medical treatments, but I pretty much know how this movie is going to end. And I can not control the cards that are dealt, just how I play the hands. Now if I am not morose enough for you, I am sorry to disappoint. But I don't choose to be an object of pity and in fact, although I am going to die soon, I am actually physically very strong. In fact, I am probably physically stronger than most of the people in this audience.(doing push ups).
那么，对于我来说目前房间里有这样一头大象，并且这头大象不是虚拟的，它是真实存在的（房间里的大象这个英语成语是指有一件事大家不可能视而不见，但又不愿谈及,译者注)。我一直在和胰腺癌搏斗，而现在，在手术和化疗放疗之后，癌细胞又回来了。这些是我最近期的CT扫描图片。胰腺癌现在已经扩散到了我的肝部。目前我的肝脏里大约有十二个肿瘤。我不喜欢这个事实。我有三个年幼的孩子。毫不隐讳地说，目前的状况糟糕极了。但是对于我将不久于人世这件事实我无能为力。我积极地寻求各项医学治疗，但是我很清楚这部电影将如何结束。我无法控制将会被发到什么样的牌，但是我可以掌控手中牌的打法。现在，如果我看起来不够忧郁消沉，抱歉让你失望了。但是，我选择不让自己成为被怜悯的对象。尽管我不久就将死去，事实上我的体力还非常的好。实际上，我可能比在座观众中的大多数人的体力还要好（randy开始伏在地上做俯卧撑）。
So today's talk is not about death, it is about life and how to live. Specifically about childhood dreams and about how you can try to achieve them---my childhood dreams, your childhood dreams.
那么今天的演讲不是关于死亡，而是关于生活和如何去生活。尤其是关于童年的梦想，关于如何去成就这些童年的梦想--我的童年梦想，你的童年梦想。
As a child, I had an incredibly happy childhood. I went back and raided the photo album. I could not find any places I wasn't smiling. Right? I just had a great childhood...and I was dreaming, always dreaming. It was an easy time to dream when you turned on your television set and men are landing on the moon---anything is possible and we should never lose that spirit. So what were my childhood dreams? Being in the National Football league. This is one of the childhood dreams I did not achieved. Alright? And it is very important to know that if you don't achieve your dreams, you can still get a lot by trying for it. There is an expression I love---experience is what you get when you don't get what you wanted. I played a little league football for a long time and I had a phenomenal coach, coach Jim Graham and he was old school. When I was at practice, he rode me all practice. You know you are
doing it wrong, go back and do it again,you are sluffing off, you owe me push-ups...just for two hours, it was relentless. And after practice, one of this assistance couches came up to me and he said:" yes, couch Graham rode you pretty hard". I said Yeah. He said" that is a good thing. Because it means he cares. When you are doing a bad job and nobody points out to you, that's when they've given up on you." and that is something really stuck with me, is that when someone is going to ride you for two hours, they are doing that because they care to make it better.
孩提时代，我拥有一个极其幸福的童年。我在家里翻看相册选取一些照片的时候，我找不到任何一张我不笑的照片。是不是？我的童年非常棒……我在梦想，总是在梦想（幻灯片randy童年梦想的照片）。那是一个容易去梦想的年代，当你打开电视机，人类正在登陆月球--任何事情都是可能的，我们永远都不应该失去这种精神。那么什么是我童年时代的梦想呢？进入全美橄榄球联盟。这是我没能实现的一个童年梦想。对吧？但是明白这样一点很重要--即使你没有实现你的梦想，你依然能够从你努力尝试去实现的过程中得到很多收获。有这样一个我非常喜欢的说法---即使没有得到你想要的，你依然可以收获经历（经验）。我曾学习了相当一段时间的little league橄榄球（少年橄榄球），我有一个很杰出的教练，格拉海姆教练，他的教学法非常的传统老派。当我练习的时候，整个训练的过程中他对我不依不饶的。我看你做的不对，回去重做，你在投机取巧，你得给我做俯卧撑……整整两个小时，非常残酷无情。训练结束后，一位助理教练走过来对我说：“是啊，格拉海姆教练把你训练的挺狠的。”我说是啊。他说，这是一件好事。因为这意味着他很关心你。如果你做得很差而没有人为你指出来，那也就意味着他们都放弃了你。这一幕往事伴随了我一生，如果有人在两个小时的训练中对你丝毫都不放松，这说明他们在用心使你做得更好。
So next dream--Walt Disney imagineering. When I was eight, my family took the pilgrimage to Disneyland in
那么下一个梦想--作沃特迪斯尼的幻想工程师。在我八岁的时候，我们全家去加利福尼亚州的迪斯尼乐园作了一次“朝圣之旅”，那真是一次无比美妙的旅行。那些有趣的娱乐项目，演出和景观，所有的一切……然后我说：“天啊，等我长大了，我想造这些东西”。于是，我从大学毕业然后试图成为一名幻想工程师。他们是制造奇迹的人。然后我收到了一封非常可爱的拒绝信。研究生院毕业以后我又去尝试，这些年来我积攒了所有这些拒绝函。这些信可真有激励作用。后来最不可思议（岂有此理）的事情发生了。你知道，我努力的工作努力地工作，我成为一名年轻的大学教授并在某一特定领域有所专长……那（幻灯片里的人）就是我……我具备了一项对迪斯尼很有价值的技术专长我得到一个去迪斯尼工作的机会，我成为他们幻想工程团队中的一员，我们共同着手开发一个叫做魔毯飞行的项目，那真是太酷了。但是，我花了十五年的时间和无数的尝试才终于做到了这一切。我终于明白，那些（人生旅途中）挡在我们前进道路上的砖墙的存在是有道理的。他们的存在不是为了阻挡我们（实现我们的梦想），他们在那里是给我们一种方式来证明我们多么地渴望它（实现我们的梦想）。
If you are going to have childhood dreams, I recommend you have good parents.I lucked out I have great parents. This is my mother, on her 70's birthday. I am the blur in the back, I have just been lapped. This is my father on his 80's birthday. There is this notion of have fun all the time. Have a sense of fun and wonder that should never go away.
如果你要有童年梦想，我建议你有好的父母。我无比幸运拥有了不起的父母。（幻灯片中的母亲）这是我的母亲，在她70岁生日的时候。（照片上）后面那个模糊的部分是我。我当时刚刚被母亲超过了一整圈（randy和母亲在赛车游戏中，母亲开得很快，刚刚拉了他一圈）。这是我的父亲在他八十岁生日的时候。时时刻刻享受生活的乐趣，永远不要让趣味感和对生活的探索精神远离我们。
My dad, what an incredible guy! He fought in world war two. He was clearly part of the greatest generation. Sadly, my dad passed away a little over a year ago. And when my mother was going through his things that was when she discovered that in world war two, he was awarded the bronze star for a valor. In fifty years of marriage, it had just never come up. There is a real lesson in humility that I can learn from my father there.
我的父亲，他是个了不起的人。他参加过二战。很明显他是那个最伟大的一代中的一员。令人难过的是我父亲在一年多前去世了。当我的母亲整理他的遗物的时候，她才发现在二战中，我的父亲曾经获得过铜星英雄勋章。在五十年的婚姻生活中，竟然从没有听父亲提起过。这是一个从我父亲那里学来的谦逊做人的一课。
Now my mother. Mothers are people who love you if when you pull their hair. And this was the kind of relationship I have with my mother. And my mother, speaking of humility, was always there to keep me in check. When I was going through graduate school, I was taking really hard examinations. I was home pretty much complaining and whining about how hard this PHD tests were, and she just patted my arm and said, we know how you feel. Just remember that when your father were your age, he was fighting the Germans in World War Two. And the day came when I got my PHD, I was so proud and my mother introduce me to everyone as--this is my son, he is a doctor but not the kind that helps people.
现在谈谈我的母亲。（幻灯片出现randy小时候揪妈妈头发的照片）母亲是那些即使你扯他们的头发他们还是会爱你的人。这基本上就是我和母亲之间的这种关系。我的母亲，谈到谦虚，她总是在那里提醒我保持做人的检省。当我在研究生院学习的时候，我当时有一些极艰难的考试。回到家里，我就牢骚满腹地抱怨这些博士学位的考试有多么不容易。母亲拍拍我的胳膊对我说，我们知道你的感受，不过别忘了，你爸爸在你这个年龄的时候正在二战战场上和德军作战。当我终于获得了博士学位的那一天，我感到那么骄傲，我的母亲把我介绍给大家说：这是我的儿子，他是个doctor,不过不是帮助人的那种doctor(英文中博士和医生是同一个词doctor) 。
Probably the most wonderful thing my parents did was let me paint my bedroom. I said one day I want to paint stuff on the walls and they said OK. So I had a rocket ship and we lived in a ranch so I wanted an elevator. I wasn't sure where it would go...and yeah, you can tell the nerds early so that was the quadratic equation. But the great thing is that they let me do it. And they felt that letting me express my creativity was more important than the pristine nature of the walls. I was really blessed to have parents who saw it that way. My parents taught me about importance of people versus things. So when I got older, I bought my first car and I was so excited. I had this shiny convertable,these were my nephew and niece christopher and laura and every month i take them for a weekend. So my sister and her husband can give a little break. And we go off for advantures. And I was just showing off my new car and my sister explained to chris and laura--that is uncle randy's new car, you can't get it dirty …… and they were just cracking up laughing because over her shoulder i was casually open a can of soda and just emptying it on the back seat and they come running over and my sister said what are you doing? And I said it is a thing, it's just a thing. I am really glad I did that because at the end of the weekend as I was driving them home, little Chris who was about eight at the time, had had the flu and he threw up all over the back seat of my car. And I don't care how much value you get out of owning a nice shiny pristine thing. It's not as good as I felt
knowing that I made an eight year old boy not feel guilty just because he had the flu.
大概我的父母所做的最伟大而绝妙的事情是允许我在我的卧室墙壁上涂鸦。有一天我说，我想在我的房间墙壁上画些东西，他们说行啊。于是我画了一艘火箭飞船。我们住的是大饲养场的房子（通常ranch指拥有很多土地的饲养场的房子，一般都为一层），所以我画了一部电梯。我不知道这部电梯通到哪去……还有，对了，这里是一个二次方程式，从这里你能看到当年那个书呆子。这里了不起的是他们让我那样去做了，他们觉得让我表现自己的创造力比墙壁的完美无瑕来得更为重要。能有这样见识的父母实在是我的福气。我的父母还教导我人相对于东西是更为重要的。所以在我长大以后，我买了我的第一辆汽车，当时我非常兴奋。我拥有了这辆崭新锃亮的convertible（顶棚可折叠收起的汽车）.这是我的外甥和外甥女chris和laura。每个月我都会带他们过一个周末，这样的话我的姐姐和姐夫可以有一点他们自己的时间。我们会出去做一些新奇的事。那时候我就向他们炫耀我的新汽车，我得姐姐忙着跟chris和laura解释，这是 Randy舅舅的新车，你们可别把它给弄脏了……这时候两个孩子开始迸发出大笑，因为隔着她的肩膀，我正随意地打开一瓶碳酸饮料并把整罐饮料倒在后车座上。饮料流得到处都是，我的姐姐问你这是干什么呢？我说，这车是个东西，它不过就只是个东西。我很高兴我这么做了，因为在这个周末结束的时候，当我驾着车回家，当时只有八岁的小chris得了流感，他把我的后车座吐的一塌糊涂。我不在乎拥有一个溜光铮亮完美无暇的东西能够带给你多大的价值。对我来说，让一个八岁的孩子没有因为自己得了流感而感到负疚，这让我的感觉要好得多。
Next thing, you better decide early on if you are a tigger or an Eeyore. Tiggers are energetic,optimistic. They are curious, they are enthusiastic and they have fun and never ever underestimate the importance of having fun. I am dying soon and I am choosing to have fun today, tommorrow and every other day I have left.
另外一件事，你们最好在年少时就决定你是跳跳虎还是依唷驴(童话中小熊维尼Winnie thePooh 的两个朋友, 性格一乐观, 一悲观. 译者注). [放画有跳跳虎和依唷驴的幻灯, 文字内容为决定你是跳跳虎还是依唷驴”]跳跳虎精力充沛，乐观向上，他们充满好奇心，充满激情，而且他们始终生活的很有乐趣，并且从不低估乐趣的重要性。我没有多少日子了，而我依然选择充满乐趣地去生活，今天，明天以及我所仅有的剩余的每一个日子。
If you want to achieve your dreams, you better work and play well with others and that means you better live with integrity. Simple advice that you will find hard to follow--just tell the truth. Second thing, when you screw up, apologize. There are a lot of bad apologies in
如果你想要成就你的梦想，你最好能够和其他人在工作和生活中和谐相处。这意味着你要正直地去生活，有一个简单但是并不容易做到的建议--说真话。第二，当你把事情搞砸了，道歉。在美国有很多很糟糕的道歉。好的道歉有三个部分：对不起。是我的错。我该怎样做才能弥补（挽救/更正）我的过失？大多数的人跳过了第三个部分。也正是这一部分可以让你了解道歉的诚意。
The last thing is that we all have people that we don't like, that have done things we don't like. And what I have found is that no one is pure evil.If you wait long enough,they will show you their good side. You can not make them do it in a hurry, but you can be patient.
最后一点是，我们都有我们不喜欢的人，那些作了我们不喜欢的事情的人。我发现没有人是完全邪恶的。如果你能够等足够长的时间，他们会向你展示他们好的一面。你不能要求很快就看到他们的优点，但是你要有耐心。
Show gratitude. When I got tenure as a young faculty member, there are about 15 young kids have been working in my research lab. I took them all down to the disney world for a week on my nickle. One of my colleague said this must have cost you an arm and a leg. How could you do it? I said these kids just worked day and night for years so that I could get the best job in the world for life. How could I not do it? Gratitude is a very simple thing and it's a very powerful thing.
感恩。当我作为一个年轻的大学教师获得终身教职的时候，大约有15个孩子在我的实验室工作。我自费带他们全体到迪斯尼乐园去玩了一个星期。我的一个同事说，这一定花了你不少钱吧，你怎么舍得这么做呢？我说，这些孩子几年来日夜辛苦工作使我获得了世界上最好的终身职业，我怎么能不这么做呢？感恩是一件很简单的事情，但是会非常的有影响力。
And lastly, I don't think complaining and whining really solves the problem. This is Jacky Robinson, first black major leaguer, had it in his contract not to complain if people spit on him. Alright, I don't care if you are Jacky Robinson or if you are a guy like me who's only got a couple of months to live, you can choose to take your finite time and energy and effort, and you can spend it complaining or you can spend it playing the game hard which is probably going to be more helpful to you in a long run.
最后我想说的是我不认为牢骚抱怨能够真正地解决问题。这是Jacky Robinson（幻灯片显示Jacky Robinson的照片）。他是第一位参加重要联赛的黑人棒球运动员。在他的合同里写着即使人们朝他的身上吐痰，也不能抱怨。好了，不管你是Jacky Robinson还是一个像我这样只有几个月可以活的人，我们可以选择用有限的时间，精力和努力来抱怨，也可以选择去努力的打好这场比赛，后者从长远的角度来说可能对你更有帮助。
Now I told you this is part of the lecture serials at
现在我要告诉你这个演讲是我在卡耐基梅隆大学系列讲座中的一部分。让你们了解我为什么做这个讲座很重要。这个讲座不仅仅是关于如何实现你的儿时梦想。它有着更广泛的内涵。它是关于如何去生活。因为如果你能够正确地引领你的生活，命运之神自然会垂青你。你的梦想会自己来到你的身边。如果你能够正确地生活，你的梦想必然成真。能有那么多人从我的讲座中受益真是太好了。而事实是，我其实并不真的是给卡耐基梅隆现场的四百多人做这个讲座，我的这个讲座只为三个人（幻灯片出现randy和他的三个孩子的照片）。等他们长大一些的时候，他们可以看到。谢谢。
“我们无法改变命运，只能决定如何过日子。”
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美国总统布什被鲍什的故事所感动，并在一封信中赞扬了他的精神。布什写到：“你对家庭的爱、对教师职业的投入和热情将会成为永久的财富，我感谢你服务国家的精神。”美国时代周刊把鲍什列为世界上最有影响力的100人之一。
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