我在想未来我希望儿子成为什么样的人。我想象他拥有我希望的品质。 然后我就好奇自己是否有足够资格教他那些我预想他应该有的品质。当这些品质在我脑海中活跃的时候，教授这些经验的迫切感油然而生。 结果就是…… 生活31准则 1.生活不会决定你的态度。但是你的.态度可以决定你过怎样的生活。改变你的态度将会一直是最短，却最显著改变你生活的方法. 2.爱和原谅。你能够真正爱的程度是你人格的一个展示，而不仅仅是一种感觉，更多的是愿意原谅。你能够原谅的越多，你就有更多爱的自由。他们是紧密相连的。 3.不要把现在的生活和你的过去，你过去犯的错误，你以前交往的人，过去的问题联系起来。也不要对其他人这样做。 4.学会嘲笑自己的错误，不行，缺点和自我。其他人也会这样，你最终也会这样。何不抢先别人从当下就这样做呢？ 5.习惯性地给自己投资资本，投资发展你的能力和天分，投资你的知识和教育。每天学习。不要对常规的教育依赖太多。自学。并且对它感到兴奋。阅读，研究。挑战自己，发展自己，提高自己。没有任何投资的红利比这个高。记住！机会是能力的副产品，能力是知识付诸于行动的积淀物。所以间接来说，知识限制机会。 6.控制你的思想。它们对你接下来的生活很有意义。 7待友忠诚，对家人永远忠诚，对真相坚决忠诚。 8.你是那个爱你懂你的上帝一个了不起的产物。因此，你可以到达任何你想爬的高度。作为这样的你，你有内在潜力满足比大多数人更多事物。所以不要满足。生命中最好的景色是从最高山峰顶端看到的。最高的山峰是那些只有极少数人能够爬上去的。爬最高的山吧！纵然你不能爬到山顶，半山腰的风景也比你从山脚看到的要好。 9.记住人永远比事重要。永远不要把家人当作牺牲的羔羊，放在你其他的追求祭坛上。 10.当你过着和和宇宙幸福生活法则一致的生活时，幸福就是一个自然的结果。尽管幸福有一定的主观性，但是客观条件一定以它的最高形式存在于幸福生活中。发现这些幸福生活的宇宙法则，和它们保持一致，然后就等着享受非常令人惊奇的效果吧。 11.永远对自己真诚，只有这样你才不会需要违背别人的借口。 12.思想是神圣的地方，所以要以这种方式对待它。只把有价值的东西存入其中。摒弃那些侵蚀性的，腐败性的，低贱的和肮脏的东西。思想就像海绵，它从来不会释放液体，正是它的纤维材质会沾上思想的颜色。思想也会吸收你给予它的任何东西，它会像保持圣洁一样保持肮脏。所以请给思想那些你想要反映你生活的想法，思想和图像。随着时间的流逝，它就会成为你想要的那样。 13.培养智慧，用激情指引，用人性学习，用勇气践行 14.寻找爱多于被爱，你会比你直接寻找被爱得到更多的被爱 15.如果你把上帝放在第一位，那个一切事情会在正确的时间，正确的地方以正确的量出现。 16.你发起的最伟大的战争将会是发生在你灵魂战地上的。我们是双重性质的。我们有高尚的和不高尚的冲动。喂养高尚的，让不高尚的饿着吧。这场战争你必须要赢。你的幸福和自尊就靠它了。 17.知道对生活最重要的事情，和对你的生活最重要的事情。限制在那些你生命之轮上不重要和琐碎事情上花费的时间。永远不允许重要的事情让最重要的事情脱轨。 18.激情大部分来自于你怎样把眼前的工作当作一种刚巧发生的特殊的工作来处理。对你在做的事情培养激情。它会这个工作改变成你爱的工作。 19.记得要经常检查你车里的汽油，闪光灯的点亮和你性格的完整性。 20.爱你做的东西最简单的方法就是做你爱的。第二种方法也不那么糟糕。那就是真正擅长做它。能力会培养激情。激情会让工作变得不像工作，而更像是完成生活的使命。它至少不会像为了生存那么糟糕吧。 21.永远不要秘密的做那些你不想让大家知道的事情。过些时间，别人总会的发现的，有人可能最终会把它公布于众。 22.过生活就像它是你唯一想要得到的一样。这就关系到你怎样生活。 23.性格更加的能够彰显你是个怎样的人，而不是知名度，品格或者身份。所以让你高尚的品质大声的说话，以至于没有人能够听到次要思想的流言蜚语。 24.最先做最重要的事情。然后，如果你没有力气，时间或者办法，你至少完成了最重要的事情——它比大多数人更能够说明问题。 25.拖延是让坏事情更糟糕，好事情变糟糕的“最好”办法。 26.小心骄傲和自私的毒刺。但是不要把他们和自信之花混淆。拔除前者，浇灌后者。 27.在关系中，2半永远不能够成为一个整体。它们只会让破裂的两半在空虚的希望中，极度地依附彼此。，只有美德的联合，才能够让他们完整。不要指望一个不完整的一半来修复它。无底洞的需要永远不会有可靠的朋友，配偶和父母。寻找一个可以为你未来孩子当伟大父母的配偶。在脑海中和这个人约会。永远不要和没有与你约会的人结婚，所以永远不要和你不会与其结婚的人约会。 28.你有道义责任来发现幸福的法则，并且在生活中践行他们。你会成为一个更好的配好，更好的父母，更加亲密的朋友，更和睦的的邻居，更友善的雇主，更好的员工和市民。 29.如果你不能唱歌，唱吧！不能跳舞，跳吧。生活如此之短暂，来不及担心别人怎么样看你的歌，说你的舞蹈。 30.让耐心作为你的第一反应，善良作为你的第一回应，勇气作为你的无条件选择，信念作为你的第一爱好，好奇作为你的首要问题，坚持作为你最长的答案，感恩成为你无意识的条件，爱是你的首选，剩下的就是办法。 31.最后，我亲爱的儿子，我的心里一直都全是你。我会成为你生命的纤维，因为在你整个一生中，我的思想会被传授，我的行为会被看见，我的爱会被感知。尽管我的言语，行为和爱还是有缺陷，但是他们表明了一种生活，思想和信仰的方式，即使它不完美，三十我希望它能够照亮一条路能够引导你经历生活中最大的冒险和挑战。And then I wondered if I was adequately teaching him the traits I envisioned him having. A sense of urgency to be sure the lessons are taught while I’m still here to teach them swept over me.
This is the result …
31 Principles of Life
1. Life doesn’t dictate your attitude. But your attitude dictates how you’ll experience life. Changing your attitude will always be the shortest and most permanent route to changing your life.
2. Love and forgive. The degree to which you are able to truly love as an expression of your character, not merely as a feeling, the more you will be willing to forgive. The more you are able to forgive, the more you will be free to love. They go hand-in-hand.
3. You won’t want to go through life tied to your own history, to the mistakes you’ve made, the former people you’ve associated with, the problems of the past. So don’t hold others to theirs.
4. Learn to laugh at your own mistakes, mishaps, imperfections and ego. Everyone else is anyway. And you will eventually. So why not do it preemptively in real time?
5. Invest regularly in your own human capital, in the development of your ability and talents, in your knowledge and education. Learn every day. Don’t rely exclusively on formal modes of education. Learn on your own. Get excited about it. Read. Study. Challenge yourself. Develop. Improve. There will be no investment that pays greater dividends. Remember, opportunity is a byproduct of ability and ability is the residue of knowledge put to action. So skimping on knowledge circumscribes opportunity.
6. Control your thoughts. They are pregnant with the rest of your life.
7. Be loyal to your friends. Be deeply loyal to your family. Be fiercely loyal to truth.
8. You are an amazing creation of a God who knows and loves you. You can therefore rise to any height you’re willing to climb. You have the potential inside right now, as you are, for something so much more than most people settle for. So don’t settle. The greatest views in life are from on top the highest mountains. The highest mountains are those that are climbed the least often by the fewest people. Climb the highest mountains. Even if you don’t reach the summit, the view from halfway up is better than from the bottom of the mountain you never started climbing.
9. Be sure people always come before things. Never let your family be the sacrificial lamb you place at the altar of other pursuits.
10. Happiness is the natural consequence of living your life consistent with the universal principles upon which a happy life is predicated. While there certainly is subjectivity in happiness, there are objective conditions that must be present in the happy life at its highest form. Discover those universal principles of happiness, work at consistently living by them, and enjoy reaping some pretty amazing results.
11. Always be true to yourself so you never feel the need to be false to anyone else.
12. The mind is sacred ground, so treat it that way. Take only worthy things into it. Reject that which corrodes and corrupts and demeans and dirties. Treat your mind like a sponge that never releases its liquid, whose very fibers are stained with the color of its thoughts. The mind will absorb whatever you feed it; It will retain the filth as much as the noble. So fill it with those ideas, thoughts and images you would want to have reflected in the mirror of your life. Because over time, it will be.
13. Cultivate wisdom, lead with compassion, learn with humility, act with courage.
14. Seek to love more than be loved and you will be loved much more than if you seek it directly.
15. If you put God first, everything else will fit into the right place at the right time and in the right amount.
16. The greatest battles you will ever wage will be on the battleground of your own soul. We are dual-natured. We have noble impulses and ignoble ones. Feed the noble and starve the ignoble. That’s a battle you must win. Your happiness and self-respect rely on it.
17. Make the things that matter most in life the things that matter most in your life. Limit the time you spend spinning your wheels in the sand of the unimportant and trivial. And never let the important derail your pursuit of the most important.
18. Passion comes as much from how you approach the work in front of you as in the particular type of work that happens to be there. Cultivate passion for what you do. It transforms it into something you love doing.
19. Remember to regularly check the oil in your car, the batteries in your flashlight and the integrity in your character.
20. The easiest way to love what you do is to do what you love. The second easiest way isn’t too bad either. It’s to get really good at doing it. Competence tends to breed passion. And passion makes work something less like work and more like fulfilling a life-mission. Not a bad way to go about making a living.
21. Never do in private what you wouldn’t want the public to find out about. And these days, they’re likely to find out anyway. Someone will likely Facebook it by the end of the day!
22. Live life like it was the only one you were going to get and like it mattered how you lived it.
23. Character is a much more accurate voice exclaiming who you are than popularity, personality or status. So let your moral character speak so loudly no one can hear the gossip spoken about you by lesser minds.
24. Do what matters most first. Then, if you run out of energy, time or means, you will at least have accomplished the things that matter most – which is more than most people will be able to say.
25. Procrastination is the best way to make bad things worse and good things bad.
26. Beware the thistles of Pride and Selfishness. But never confuse them with the blossoms of Confidence and Self-respect. Root out the former and water the latter.
27. In relationships, two halves never make a whole. They only make two broken halves desperately clinging to each other in the vain hope that by virtue of the union, they become complete. Don’t look for an incomplete half to fix. Bottomless pits of need never make very reliable friends or spouses or parents. Look for a spouse who will make a great parent to your future kids. Date with that in mind. You will never marry someone you don’t date, so don’t date someone you would never marry.
28. You have a moral duty to discover the principles of happiness and work at applying them throughout your life. You will be a better spouse, a better parent, and closer friend a more neighborly neighbor, a kinder employer, and better employee and citizen for doing so.
29. If you can’t sing, sing anyway. If you can’t dance, dance anyway. Life is too short to be concerned with what other people think of your song and say about your dance.
30. Let patience be your first response, kindness be your first reply, courage be your default setting, faith be your first inclination, curiosity be your first question, perseverance be your longest answer, gratitude be your spontaneous condition and love be your first, final and only method.
31. And finally, my dear son, know that my heart will always be filled with you. I will be a part of the fabric of your life because my thoughts will have been taught, my example will have been seen and my love will have been felt your whole life. And while my words and example and love will have been flawed, they will have indicated a way of living, of thinking and believing, even if imperfectly, that I hope illuminates a path that entices you to the greatest adventure you will ever have.
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