什么才是真的友谊？是那些准确知道你生日的朋友，还是你花了很多时间跟他聊天聚会的朋友？现在，我们有很多种途径跟朋友交流，skype，ICQ，Gchat，Facebook Messenger,Grindr等聊天软件。然而，在我们的好友列表中，哪些才是真正的朋友呢？我们是不是都有一些纯粹的网友和现实生活中一直有着互动的朋友。他们的不同是什么？
网友：那些你并不认识，却在聊天室或者社交网站上加为好友的人，例如在推特，又或者Facebook，你加了他好友是因为他是你所认识的人的朋友。同时你又觉得他很惹火，刚好你也喜欢结交惹火的Facebook好友。只要看到网友的头像旁边亮着在线的小绿点，你就可以跟他聊天。有时，你甚至会有一位在网上最好的朋友，你也许从未在真实生活中见过他，可他却在你工作无聊时和奋战论文时，陪伴着你。你们至少每隔一天就会跟彼此聊天。你们有彼此间的小幽默，甚至也曾想过去他所在的城市游玩，让彼此更近一步。
现实生活中的朋友：他们会尽可能的陪伴你，只要不是在忙，或者正在看最喜欢的电视节目。只要看到网友的头像旁边亮着在线的小绿点， 你就可以随时找到他们聊天，然而你你无法知道现实生活中的朋友此刻是不是很忙碌或者正在做别的事情。你可以和现实生活中的朋友去喝个下午茶，评价一下他的新发型。就算你跟现实生活中的朋友在网上聊天，你知道他是真朋友，因为即使他处于“隐身”状态，也还是会跟你聊天。关于八卦和生活烦恼
网友：他们知道你所有的感情问题，因为你已经向他求助了几个月了。“喂，你觉得我今晚应不应该是试着去亲他呢？“天呐，你有什么意见吗？”你觉得跟网友聊这些问题不需要顾忌，因为他们最多只知道你的名字叫做”凯蒂史密斯“，甚至这根本不是你的真名，又或者你只是胡编乱造了你所谓的“社交问题”。当然，也可能是你现实生活中的朋友已经被你的感情问题烦透了，而现在，你又有了了一个全新的倾诉对象。
现实生活中的朋友：他们了解你的一切，也不怕向你提出不同意见。没错，网友能给你一些建议，甚至是决定性的建议，但是他们永远没有办法像现实生活中的朋友一样，告诉你该怎么做，现实生活中的朋友会说：“你不是已经有一个女朋友了吗？”“你真的不该跟别的女孩讲话，不管她有多惹火。”现实生活中的朋友，能在你因为工作感到失落或者遭遇人生低谷的时候，给你最好的陪伴。网友能够安慰你，去无法达到像现实中的朋友那样陪伴的效果。关于性吸引力
网友:根据前文说描述的网友，也许你们之间还存在一些未解决的性吸引力。可能你们已经跟彼此有过性暗示的对话，不过即使你们已经还没有过那种“深夜对话”，如果你真的让你们的友谊转化成现实中的，真的去解决了那些未释放的性吸引力，你就会觉得你只是做了一次爱，而你也只想就这样结束了它。而不管怎么说，你们并不是纯粹的陌生人，所以这也不是一夜情——因为你们已经在网上聊了6个月了，那么只能把它当作一次身体上的“打招呼”吧。
现实中的朋友：我们真的想跟现实中的朋友发生性关系吗？也许友谊会因此从浪漫的关系变长了单纯的性关系，又或者从单纯的性关系升华成了柏拉图式的关系。并不是说现实生活的朋友之间没有性吸引力，只是跟从未见过的网友之间更具有性吸引力。关于消遣活动
网友：你可以跟网友玩填字游戏或者一起看最喜欢的电视节目，聊这个节目哪里让你觉得最厌烦。非常有趣的是——我现在几乎不再是独自看电视节目了。我在看一些大家茶余饭后都会讨论的节目，例如《丑闻》、《变装皇后选秀》、《国土安全》，只要电视正在播放它，我就肯定在跟网友边聊天边看。而我也不再跟我现实中的朋友一起看电视节目了。再说，跟网友聊天，你总能得到新的体验——也许是性吸引力吧。
现实生活中的朋友：你很享受和他们一起去参观画展或者去你最喜欢的餐厅吃饭。很难说到底是有网友好还是有现实中的朋友好。但人与人之间真实的接触，是其他事物都无法替代的。
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What makes a true friendship anymore? Is it whether or not the person knows your birthday, or how many hours you spend talking on the phone or hanging out in person? With all the ways we can communicate now — Skype, ICQ, AIM, Gchat, Facebook Messenger, Grindr, etc. — and with all the people on our buddy lists, who are we really friends with? Is it possible to have friends who are purely for the Internet and others you interact with in real life? What’s the difference? Keeping You Company
Online Friends: Online friends are people you don’t really really know but you met them once at a conference, on a social networking site, on Twitter, or maybe you added them to your Facebook because they’re friends with someone you know. Plus they’re hot, and you do enjoy collecting Facebook friends based on their hotness. An online friend is someone you know is available every time you see that little green dot next to their name, so you write them and say hello. But sometimes it’s possible to have an online best friend who you’ve never met before in real life, but who keeps you company when you’re writing a long paper or bored at work. You talk to each other at least every other day. You even have inside jokes and think about going out to visit them wherever they live, you know, to take things to the next step.
Real Life Friends: Real life friends keep you company when they can, when they’re not busy with something else or watching a favorite television show. An online friend is available whenever they have that promiscuous little green dot beside their name, but your real life friends have things to do and you don’t always know what they’re doing or when they’re busy. You can make plans with your real life friends for tea or brunch, and you can compliment them on their new haircut. Even if you talk to your real life friend online, you KNOW they’re a real friend when they are ‘invisible’ and they will still talk to you. Gossip And Life Problems
Online Friends: Online friends know all about your relationship drama and boy/girl crushes, because you’ve been asking them for advice for months. Hey there, Google Talk friend, Should I try to kiss him tonight? OMG what do you think? You feel comfortable talking to your online friends about all of your life issues because as far as they know your name is really “Katie Smith,” even though it’s not, and you could be making up all of your social problems. Plus, you’ve already bugged your real life friends about this stuff to death. Now you have a whole new outlet!
Real Life Friends: Your real life friends know you the best and are not afraid to tell you about yourself. Sure, your online friends can offer an opinion, even a decisive one, but there is nobody like a real life friend to tell you when you need to get it together. A real life friend says things like, Don’t you already have a girlfriend? Should you really be talking to this other girl, no matter how hot she is? A real life friend will make you feel good even when you’re feeling depressed about the job market or going through a difficult period in your life. An online friend can console you, but just doesn’t have the same context. Sexual Tension
Online Friends: Depending on the context in which you met said online friend, there might still be some unresolved sexual tension between you two that has to be dealt with. Maybe you’ve made some sexual innuendos to each other. But even if you haven’t had those kind of late night chats, if you ever do take your friendship into real life you do run the risk of having unreleased sexual tension. You feel like you should just have sex already, you know, just to get it over with. After all, you’re not really strangers so it’s not really a hook up — you’ve been friends online for like six months now. Consider it a physical Hello!
Real Life Friends: Do we really want to have sex with our real life friends? Maybe the friendship started romantically but ended up becoming sexual, or maybe our friendships started sexual and got platonic somewhere along the way. Not that there’s never sexual energy between real life friends, but it seems like sexual energy between online friends you’ve never met before is implied. Or maybe I’m just a slut. Activities
Online Friends: With online friends you can do things like play Words With Friends or watch your favorite television show together, chatting about everything that annoys you about the show. That’s the fun part — I almost never watch TV alone now. If I’m watching a big show that everyone is talking about, like Scandal, RuPaul’s Drag Race or Homeland, I’m definitely chatting to my online friends while it’s on. Not that I don’t do that with my real life friends, too. Plus, with online friends you always have a new place to visit — sexual tension or not.
Real Life Friends: With real life friends, you can go out to galleries or to your favorite restaurant and do things together you both enjoy. It’s not fair to say that having online friends or real life friends is better than the other, but there’s something irreplaceable about real, human contact.
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