真正高贵的不是出身，是教养。
The truly noble is not birth, but upbringing.
教育家苏霍姆林斯基曾说过：
Educator Suhomlinski once said:
在人类心灵的花园中，最质朴、最美丽和最平凡的花朵就是人的教养。
In the garden of human mind, the most simple, beautiful and ordinary flower is human cultivation.
教养，是培养孩子成人的灵魂，是教育孩子成材的基础，只想通过穷养或富养的捷径，剑走偏锋。
Nurturing is to cultivate the soul of children as adults, and it is the basis of educating children to become mature. We just want to take the shortcut of poor or rich, and go the wrong way.
看似奇巧，自以为可以出奇制胜，其结果，往往事与愿违，功亏一篑。
It seems strange, but I think I can win by surprise. As a result, the past has gone against my wishes, and the success has fallen short.
有教养的人必然是懂得自尊与尊重他人的人，是衣着举止得体、知书达理、做事有分寸的人。
A cultured person must be a person who knows self-respect and respect others. He is a person who dresses appropriately, is knowledgeable and reasonable, and does things properly.
在生活中他们就好像阳光，带给人温暖和幸福，相处起来更让人觉得舒服，更能赢得别人的尊重和认可。
They are like sunshine in life, bringing warmth and happiness to people, making people feel more comfortable together, and winning the respect and recognition of others.
对于父母而言，当你每天讨论穷养、富养的时候，其实都不如教养来得实在，无教养寸步难行。
As for parents, when you talk about the poor and the rich every day, in fact, it is not as real as the cultivation.
教养是一笔珍贵的财富，与其给孩子留下财富，不如把孩子变成财富。
Nurturing is a precious treasure. It is better to turn children into wealth than to leave them with wealth.
所以，教养是父母给孩子最好的礼物。
Therefore, parenting is the best gift parents give their children.
良好的教养，才是孩子立足的根本
Good upbringing is the foundation of children's foothold
很多人常说，怎样判断一个人有没有教养呢？好像很难。
Many people often say, how to judge whether a person is educated or not? It seems difficult.
其实也不难，一个人有没有教养，就看他得意时的姿态。
In fact, it is not difficult. Whether a person is cultivated or not depends on his attitude when he is proud.
有的人取得一点小成就，或者一点点虚妄的名声就飘飘然，开始吹嘘自己、看不起其他的人；
Some people get a little success or a little false reputation, and start to brag about themselves and look down on others;
有的人面对比自己地位低的人，总是一副居高临下的姿态。
Some people always take a condescending attitude towards people who are lower than themselves.
这样的人，你会觉得他有教养吗？
Do you think such a person is cultured?
古来，成功之士大多怀有谦逊之心。
In ancient times, most successful people have a sense of humility.
比如：不耻下问的孔子、三顾茅庐的刘备、韬光养晦的曾国藩。
For example, Confucius, who is not ashamed to ask questions, Liu Bei, who is at the end of his life, and Zeng Guofan, who is keeping a low profile.
谦虚谨慎，其实也是一种美德和修养，希望你我都能有。
Being modest and prudent is actually a virtue and cultivation. I hope you and I can have it.
教养像是万物复苏的春天，给人带来百花齐放的美好享受，又像是高温炎热的夏天，让人感受到火辣辣的热情。
Education is like the spring of the recovery of all things, bringing people the wonderful enjoyment of blooming flowers, and also like the hot summer, which makes people feel the hot enthusiasm.
然而现实中，我们的教育只灌输知识，不培养气质；
However, in reality, our education only inculcates knowledge and does not cultivate temperament;
只注重有形的考核指标，不看重无形的心灵塑造。
Only pay attention to tangible assessment indicators, not to intangible soul shaping.
易中天就曾经批评：教育的目标是“望子成龙”，标准是“成王败寇”，方法是“死记硬背”，手段是“不断施压”。至于孩子们是否真实，善良，没有人去想。
Yi Zhongtian once criticized that the goal of education is to 'hope for success',the standard is to 'defeat the enemy', the method is 'rote memorization', and the means is 'constant pressure'. As for whether the children are real and kind, no one wants to think.
这样的教育，培养的是“为己”的人：通过努力的考试，获取更多混迹社会的凭据。
This kind of education cultivates people who are 'for themselves'through hard examination, we can obtain more evidence of mixing with society.
无微不至的教养，在你不经意间，也能泄露出你的灵魂；在你卑微的时候，也能彰显你的贵族气质。
The meticulous cultivation can also reveal your soul when you are not careful; When you are humble, you can also show your noble temperament.
被称为“中国最后的贵族”的郭婉莹，直到临死前的一天，还要求自己无论如何都要穿旗袍。
Guo Wanying, known as 'the last aristocrat in China', asked herself to wear cheongsam at all times until the day before her death.
毕淑敏说：“教养是细水长流的，具有某种坚定的流向和既定的轨道性。”
Bi Shumin said: 'Education is a long and narrow process, with a certain firm direction and established track.'
它是后天养成的品质，但一旦养成，就深植于我们的骨髓。
It is an acquired quality, but once cultivated, it is deeply rooted in our bone marrow.
无论在什么时候，展现我们的教养，等于展现我们灵魂的模样。
At any time, to show our upbringing is to show the appearance of our soul.
教养不仅仅是发乎其外、如何待人接物的姿态；实际上是“为己”与“为人”的结合。
Nurturing is not just a gesture of how to treat others from outside; In fact, it is a combination of 'for oneself' and 'for others'.
正如有人总结过的：让别人舒服，让自己不憋屈。
As someone has summed up, let others feel comfortable, and let yourself not hold back.
当你需要吵吵嚷嚷向别人表现自己的教养之时，其实你已经没什么教养。
When you need to show your upbringing to others, you have no upbringing.
当你自信于自己的行为举止，乃至生活方式、应世观念，你无往而不是在展现教养。这就是所谓从心所欲的境界。
When you are confident in your behavior, even your lifestyle, and your outlook on the world, you are not showing your upbringing. This is the so-called realm of free will.
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