猜一猜，男人们更喜欢儿子还是女儿！英语读头条（第47期）

Are Daddy’s Little Girls Treated Better Than Little Boys?

爸爸对女儿是不是比对儿子更好？

If you thought "daddy's little girl" was a just cliché, think again.

如果你觉得“爸爸的小棉袄”只不过是陈词滥调的话，你或许需要再认真想想了。

According to a study published today in Behavioral Neuroscience, dads are more attentive and responsive to toddler daughters' needs than fathers with sons of the same age.

据今天发行的《行为神经学》上的一则研究报告说，较之同年龄的男孩子们，爸爸对于小女儿的需要会给出更多关注并做出更多回应。

Researchers studied the brain scans and random, daily recordings of interactions of a group of fathers and found that they "sang more often to their daughters and spoke more openly about emotions, including sadness, possibly because they are more accepting of girls' feelings than boys'."

研究人员查看了很多脑部扫描，以及对一组爸爸们日常反应的的随机和记录中发现，他们跟女儿们在一起时更愿意唱歌，更愿意对各类情绪公开交流，包括悲伤，或许由于较之男孩们，他们对女孩子的各种情绪更容易接纳。

And it's not just the touchy-feely stuff that dads doled out liberally to their daughters — what they said was different, too.

不仅仅是对于那些多愁善感的事情爸爸们更容易与女儿们敞开来谈，他们怎么来说这些事，也不一样。

Fathers with young sons tended to focus on achievements and more physical, rough-and-tumble play, using words like "win," "proud" and "top" more often than with girls.

那些有儿子的爸爸们更多会谈到成就，更多肢体或打打闹闹的玩，比起那些女儿们，使用更多诸如“赢”，“骄傲”，“最棒”等等的词语。

On the flip side, dads with daughters used more analytical, detail-oriented words like such as "all" and "much." The study authors noted that this kind of language has been linked to future educational and academic achievement.

在另外一边，爸爸们跟女儿更多的使用分析、细节描述的词汇，诸如“所有的”，“很多的”。研究者们还发现，这些话都与未来的教育和学业成就相关联。

3 Subtle Shifts Toward Gender Equality in Parenting

在性别平等方面，父母教养有三个细微的变化

Worried that you may have subtle gender biases and blind spots? You're most likely not alone.

担心自己或许有些性别偏爱或者盲点吗？你一定不是少数。

"Recognizing points of bias are often the first step in addressing them, and so the observation that we may talk about emotions less with boys could serve as a reminder to help all children, girls and boys, identify and label their emotions," says Mascaro. Here are some simple strategies to keep the parenting playing field a bit more even:

意识到有这样的偏见或许是讨论这件事的第一步，所以对于男孩子们的情感关注少的那些观察便成为一个提醒，以便可以帮助到所有的孩子，无论男孩子还是女孩子，发现并认识自己的情感。以下，是一些可以让父母教养的乐土更加平衡的简单的方法：

1. Don’t be afraid to roughhouse. Research has shown that getting on the floor and physically (but safely) playing with your children — both boys and girls — can help them regulate their emotions.

1、不要担心打打闹闹。研究表明，在地上跟孩子们安全的玩闹－不论男孩女孩－都会帮助他们更好的调整自己的情绪。

2. Words matter. If what you say can affect everything from academic and physical achievement (think: sports and school) to body image, remember to use the same kind of healthy praise and attention with both your sons and daughters.

2、语言很重要。如果你的话语可以影响到学业、身体发展（设想：运动和学校）以及形体等方方面面的话，那么一定记住在你的儿子和女儿身上，使用同样健康的赞许和关心。

3. Be attentive to both boys and girls. "The fact that fathers may actually be less attentive to the emotional needs of boys, perhaps despite their best intentions, is important to recognize," Mascaro says. Children who have their emotional needs met develop more empathy as they get older — which just might come in handy for dad (and mom) during those challenging teenage years.

3、对男孩和女孩应该有同样的关注。“非常重要的一点是，无论他们的初衷是怎样，爸爸们其实更少留意男孩的情感需求。”Mascaro说。那些在情绪上得到更多满足的孩子们，在他们年纪更大一些后，有更好的共情能力，尤其是在具有挑战的青春期的过程中，爸爸（和妈妈）更需要介入。

单词汇总

parenting : 养育; 教养; 抚养;

cliché : 老生常谈; 陈词滥调;

behavioral : 行为的

attentive : 细心; 温存; 注意的; 周到的，殷勤的;

bias : 偏见，偏爱;

empathy : 同情心; 同感，共鸣;

“少年，拼吧！”链接：

003. 人教版八年级下册-国名和国人。

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001. 人教版八年级下册-以ment结尾的单词。