You might give yourself a hard time over things you don’t enjoy, such as being in a crowd or knowing the right thing to say. Allow yourself to be less than perfect. Don’tbeat yourself up about your failings. Instead, accept that these are not areas of strength for you. Avoid them if you can, and if you can’t, just observe what is going on around and within you. Let your inner coach come on side, reassuring you that it won’t last much longer and you’re coping well, given how difficult this is for you.
The most wonderful quality you can foster is to be gentle with yourself. Everything else will then take care of itself. When you’re in the bath, you’re being gentle with yourself. When you watch light filtering through a blind, you’re being gentle with yourself. When you support and encourage yourself when you are having difficulties, you are being gentle with yourself. Find something that makes you feel relaxed and happy – perhaps driving, walking, hugging someone you love, watching the sky, baking a cake or lying warmly under the covers on a Saturday morning. Next time you do this thing, really listen to your internal reactions. Take that sense of your own space with you wherever you go. It’s fully portable. If you lose the feeling, make sure you step back and recharge it when you can.
你可能会有因没有做好某事而闷闷不乐的时候，例如在众人面前出丑或知道该说的话而没说出来。允许自己不太完美吧。不要因自己的失败而打击自己。相反，要承认那不是你的强项。如果可以的话避免做这些事，不行的话就观察自己的周围和内心有什么情况出现。让你内心的教练支持你，安慰你这些不快不会持续很久，想想看事情对你这么困难，你都处理得很好。
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