Craving connection and friendship with other people is a fundamental part of being human.
渴望与他人的联系和友谊是人性的基本组成部分之一。
But what does being a friend mean in a world where hackers are trying to be your "friend" on Facebook?
但在一个黑客都试图在脸书上跟你做朋友的时代里，交朋友会意味着什么呢？
The act of making and being a friend is as simple as it is difficult.
交朋友的行为说简单也简单，说难也难。
We spoke with experts to help find ways to make new friends, as well as to take better care of the friendships you already have.
我们与专家进行了交流，来寻找结交新朋友的方法，以及如何更好地维护你已经拥有的友谊。
Here are a few of their insights:
以下是他们的以下看法：
Accept the awkwardness and assume that other people need new friends, too.
一.勇于面对尴尬，并假设别人也需要交新朋友。
It's weird and uncomfortable to make new friends.
交新朋友的过程可能会显得有点奇怪，让人不舒服。
When you reach out to somebody you don't know well — whether that's sending the first text message or making small talk in the elevator — you often feel exposed.
当你向一个你不太熟悉的人伸出手时——无论是发第一条短信还是在电梯里闲聊——你常常会感到自己暴露了。
You have to accept that awkwardness and the vulnerability it stems from, because guess what?
你得要直面这种尴尬和可能的危险，因为什么呢？
You can't have friends without getting vulnerable.
交朋友不可能没有风险。
Remember that people will like you more than you think they will
二.记住，如果你认为别人喜欢你，那么他们会更喜欢你。
When you are moving through the world, don't forget that human connection is yours for the taking.
当你周游世界时，不要忘记人际关系是你可以利用的。
It's science: Gillian Sandstrom, a senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Essex in the United Kingdom, has done research on something called the "liking gap," which says that the little voice in your head telling you that somebody didn't like you very much is wrong, so don't listen to it.
这是有科学依据的：英国埃塞克斯大学心理学高级讲师吉利安·桑德斯特伦做了一项关于“喜欢差距”的研究，结果表明，你脑子里那个告诉你有人不太喜欢你的小声音是错的，所以不要去听它。
"When you talk to someone else, you're actually going to brighten their day," Sandstrom says.
“当你去跟别人说话时，实际上你会让他们的一天都快乐起来，”桑德斯特伦说。
If you're up for it, Gillian and her colleagues have developed a scavenger hunt challenge to help you talk to strangers.
假如你有兴致的话，吉利安和她的同事们还开发了一种寻宝挑战来帮助你跟陌生人说话。
Invest in activities that you love
三.投资你喜爱的活动
Ask anyone about how to make friends and they will most likely tell you to try a new hobby.
问问周围的人怎样交朋友，他们可能都会告诉你去尝试一种新的爱好。
It might sound hollow, says Heather Havrilesky, the advice goddess behind the "Ask Polly" column on the website The Cut, but it works.
这听起来可能很空洞，希森· 哈夫里莱斯基说，她是the Cut网站上“问问波利”专栏的建议女神，但它确实有效。
"Do the things you're passionate about and you will naturally draw people to you, and you'll naturally connect with other people because you'll be in the right place," Havrilesky says.
哈夫里莱斯基说:“做你热爱的事情，你会自然而然地吸引别人，你也会自然而然地与他人建立联系，因为你身处其中。”
Don't forget to start with something you are actually interested in, and if it doesn't work out, remind yourself that you contain multitudes!
不要忘记要从你真正感兴趣的事情开始，如果不成功，就提醒自己你也遇到了很多人!
You don't have to be interested in just one thing.
你不一定只能有一种爱好哦。
It's OK to treat friendship as seriously as you would dating
四.把友谊像爱情一样认真对待是好的。
Having friends is one of the most nourishing parts of being alive, so it's not weird or bad or wrong to prioritize it.
拥有朋友是生活中最有营养的部分之一，所以优先考虑朋友并不是奇怪、不好或是错误的。
Get comfortable putting yourself out there a little bit.
要学会要自己主动一点。
Carve the time and space you need to find and nourish your friendships.
腾出时间和空间去寻找并滋养你的友谊。
It's what all the cool kids are doing.
所有的酷孩子都是这么做的。
Be present
五.出席活动
The planet is warming, our news alerts are constant, and there's so much good television out there to watch.
地球正在变暖，我们的新闻警报不断，还有那么多好看的电视节目。
We get it.
我们都明白。
But if you want to prioritize and nourish your friendships, you have to show up for them.
但是，如果你想优先考虑并滋养你的友谊，那么你就得为他们去出席一些场合。
We have a few tips for being present and engaged with your friends:
我们为你提供了一些建议，让你能活在当下，并与朋友互动:
Listen and notice things about your friend.
Take notes! It will help you remember your conversations and allow you points of connection later.
1.倾听并且关注你的朋友。要记笔记！这可以帮你记住你们的对话之后再建立起你们的连接点。
Remember the names of folks in your friends' lives. Another thing that can help:
2.记住你朋友周围人的名字。这也会很有帮助。
Ask to see a picture of the person they're talking about so it sticks better in your head.
3.要求查看朋友谈到的人的照片，这样你脑海中印象会更深刻。
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