Five years ago, I was miserable and alone.
Today, I get paid to do what I love. And I have an amazing family.
It did not happen because of luck. Or because I did my visualizations. It happened because I took practical steps forward each and every day.
And in this article, you’ll discover what those steps were.
1. Semi-Clarity
The first thing you have to get clear on is this: What do you REALLY want? You doní’t have to be crystal clear, but you do want a general idea of where you’re going. If you still can’t answer this question, just start somewhere. If you don’t know where you’re going, it doesn’t matter where you start.
You probably have “shoulds” in your life. You should do this. You should do that.
Is it what you truly want?
What you should do is not important. What you truly want to do is what matters.
Once you make that distinction, and once you’re willing to eliminate what other people think you should do, everything changes.
This is your life. And if you want to live the life of your dreams, you have to reclaim your power. You have to take responsibility for your life.
2. Embrace Confusion
When you’re starting out, you will be confused. I know I was. All I knew was that I wasn’t happy. I was frustrated and I just wanted to hide somewhere with a nice bowl of ice cream with candy on top.
This confusion happens because you’re embarking on a new journey. It’s a sign that you’re breaking free from your old way of being.
Itís like when a butterfly breaks free from its cocoon. At first it seems like the whole world is crashing down, but suddenly, a whole new world opens up.
There are wings. There’s freedom. There’s life.
That’s why confusion is not to be avoided, but to be embraced. It is a sign that you’re on the right path.
3. Mentor/Training
In order to take action when you’re confused, you need someone to guide you.
This could be a book, a training course, or even a mentor. But whatever you do, pick one source of information. Do not become an information junkie. It is another form of procrastination. If you want to create your dream life, you have to move forward.
You have to constantly think about what you can do. And what your next smallest step is.
4. Action
Action is key.
People talk about visualization and the law of attraction, which is fine, but it won’t get you what you want. Things will not magically manifest in your life unless you take action.
It is only when you take action, when you commit, that things will start to happen.
When you show you are willing to do this, that’s when your life will change. Jump and the support net will appear beneath you.
So, what did I do? I focused on my next smallest step. I was confused, and I still am from time to time, but I just focused on what I needed to do next.
I’ve built a successful online business around my passion. When I was building it, all I did was focus on my next smallest step.
5. Commitment
I believe one of the most important factors of my success was my commitment to making it work.
I still remember the first time I walked into an Aikido dojo. In the beginning, I was constantly looking for permission. I was asking the sensei if I was doing things right. I was looking for approval. After a few months, he said Iíd made dramatic improvements.
What changed?
I stopped looking for permission. I took back my power and I used what I had to get the results I needed.
I committed to what I was doing. I no longer looked for permission to do anything. I just did it.
It’s not a question of if, but a question of WHEN.
6. Proper Expectations
Most people give up before they see the first sign of success. That’s why you need to have the proper expectations.
You cannot expect to live the lifestyle you want in 6 months. There are a lot of products promising you that, but that’s just marketing hype.
Ignore it. And embrace reality. This will take longer than you expect, but shorter than you fear. And besides, who cares how long it takes?
Are you going to give up on your dreams and live the rest of your life in regret?
That’s unacceptable.
7. Excuse Management
And finally, you have to fine-tune your internal bullshit detector.
You will have excuses.
We all have reasons for why we canít do something. But if you truly want results, you have to get proficient at swiping your excuses to the side.
In the end, the difference between those living their dreams, and those who are just getting by, is their mindset. They are unwilling to put up with the excuses their mind makes. These are just thoughts, merely suggestions from your mind.
The Big Takeaway
You can make your wildest dreams come true.
Will it be scary? Hell yes.
Will it take a long time? It will take the time it takes.
Will it be worth it? More than you can imagine.
The truth is that the path to your dreams starts with one step. And you can take that step today.
But will you?
The decision is in your hands.
You alone hold the keys to your success.
实现宏伟目标？只需七个实际步骤
五年前，我深陷痛苦、倍感孤独。
现在，我做着喜欢的事情，还能因此领薪水。我家庭美满。
这些并不是因为我幸运，也不是我幻想出来的。我每天都脚踏实地按步骤前进，终于有了这样的结果。
在这篇文章中，让我来告诉你这些步骤是什么。
1、有个大概方向
你要明白的第一件事就是：你真正想要什么？这个目标不必十分具体清晰，但是你对自己的目标要有个大致了解。如果仍然不能回答这个问题，那就从现在开始。如果你不知道自己将要到何方，那么从哪里出发就不重要了。
也许，生活中有很多“应该”做的事情。"应该"做这，"应该"做那。
可是，这是你真正想做的 么？
"应该“做的事情无所谓，你真正想做的事情才重要。
你选择了不同的道路，你愿意忘记旁人眼中的你应该做的事情，那么整个世界都变了。
这是你的生活。如果想过上梦想的生活，那么，你需要重振旗鼓。你要为自己的生活负责。
2、拥抱困惑
当你迈出第一步时，你可能会有困惑。我以前也是这样。我只知道自己不开心。自己感到很受挫，只想躲在某个角落，狂吃一杯表面带糖果的冰激凌。
因为你踏上了新的征程，所以会产生困惑。这意味着你正在打破以前的生活方式。
就像破茧成蝶。起初好像整个世界都要都要倒了，但是，突然就豁然开朗了：
有了翅膀。有了自由。有了生活。
这就是为何困惑不能避免，而需我们拥抱。它意味着你走在正确的路上。
3、高人/训练
困惑的时候想要采取行动，你需要高人指点：
也许是一本书，一次培训课程，甚至是一位导师。
但是无论做什么，你要选择一种获取意见的方式。但是不要沉迷于这些意见中。这也是拖延症的一种。如果你想创造自己梦想的生活，你就得大步向前。
你需要不停地思考自己可以做什么。下一小步应该做什么。
4、行动
行动是王道。
人们谈论想象和吸引力定律（我们的意念、思想是有能量的，脑电波是有频率的，它们的振动会影响其他的东西。大脑就是这个世界上最强的“磁铁”，会发散出比任何东西都还要强的吸力，对整个宇宙发出呼唤，把和你的思维振动频率相同的东西吸过来。译者注），这很好。但她们并不会让你实现梦想。除非采取行动，否则事情就不会平白无故发生。当你采取行动、下定决心，梦想才开始成真。
你表现出乐意这么做的时候，你的生活就开始改变了。你会有所突破，还有强大的后援团。
那么，我做了什么呢？我把注意力放在下一步应该怎么做上。过去，我很困惑，现在仍然时时困惑，但是我只关注我下一步需要做什么。
我饱含激情，成功的开了一家网店。那会儿开店的时候，我只是在关心下一步应该怎么做。
5、信念
我认为自己成功最重要的因素之一就是我要成功的信念。
我仍然记得自己第一次走进合气道道场（Aikido dojo）的场景。最开始，我不停的寻求肯定。我问教练自己做的对不对。我在寻找认可。几个月之后，他说我进步飞快。
是什么发生了变化？
我不再寻找肯定了。不再浪费力气，而是用自己所拥有的来追求自己想要的结果。
我相信自己所做的。做任何事情我都不再寻找肯定了。我就这么做了。
我不练合气道了，但是它教会了我生命中最重要的一课：你要相信自己的所作所为。这不是说你有可能实现自己的梦想，而是你要努力让它成真。要么成，要么死磕。
不是梦想能不能成真的问题，而是梦想何时成真。
6、适当期待
很多人在看到胜利的曙光之前就放弃了。这就是为何你需要适当期待一些。
别想着再半年之内你就能过上想要的生活。市场上很多产品对你承诺可以，但那只是市场宣传。
忘了它吧。面对现实。也许比你期待的要久很多，但绝对比你担心的时间短。再说，谁管到底要花多长时间呢？
你计划放弃梦想，然后余生都活在遗憾中么？
让人难以接受。
7、别找借口
最终，你不得不让自己内心的谎话听起来可以让人接受。
你就找借口了。
事情做不成，我们都有理由。但是，如果真想有结果，你就得学会熟练的把借口扔一边儿。
归根结底，能实现梦想的人和没实现梦想的人的差别在于观念。他们不愿忍受大脑编出来的借口。这些只是一些想法，仅仅是大脑的意见。
大赠送：
你能实现自己的宏伟目标。
这个过程恐怖么？额，是的，活见鬼。
这个过程耗时很久？它只是需要它需要的时间。
这个过程值么？包君满意。
但是，大部分人都没有做自己真正想做的事情。在生命的尽头，他们不停回首，后悔自己没有做更多。
真相是：通往你梦想的道路始于足下。你可以今天就迈出第一步。
但是，你会么？
决定权在你手里。
只有自己掌握开启成功的钥匙。
有什么想说的？把想法写在评论里吧。
