又到金秋十月，不少人选择在这一黄金时段结婚，你是不是也要赶着奔赴各大婚礼宴席呢？如果要去参加外国朋友的婚礼不会说祝福语可咋办呢？不用担心！赶快加入我们学几句吧！
1. Congratulations on your good marriage. 恭喜你们喜结良缘！
2. You are well matched. 你们很般配。
3. I wish you a long life together. 祝你们百年好合。
4. May you be happy. 祝你们幸福。
5. I wish you have a wonderful honeymoon. 祝你们蜜月愉快。
6. May you have a lovely baby. 愿你们早生贵子。
7. I wish you two a happy and long married life. 祝你们婚姻幸福白头偕老!
8. It is really a beautiful wedding. 真是一场漂亮的婚礼！
9. It is a wonderful wedding ceremony. 结婚典礼办得很精彩！
10. You are made for each other. 你们是天生的一对。
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Jenny, I know you like Jack a lot, but what do you like about him?
詹妮，我知道你很喜欢杰克。但你到底觉得他怎样？
- Well, I don't know, but there's just something about him. Don't you think so?
我不知道，但他就是有一些特别。你不觉得吗？
- Really? What's that "something"?
真的吗？“一些”是什么？
- Well, he's gentle(adj.文雅的，绅士的）, patient, successful, and mature（adj.成熟的）. I think He's my Mr. Right!
他很绅士，耐心，成功，还很成熟。我想他就是我的白马王子了！
- MATURE is a good word, but don't you think he's a little old for you? He's almost twice as old as you are!
成熟是个很好的评价，但是你不觉得他对于你太大了一些吗？他的年纪是你的两倍啊！
- Well, age shouldn't be something that gets in the way of a person's marriage（n.婚姻）. As long as we love each other, age is not an issue(n.问题)。
年龄不应该成为结婚的阻力因素。只要我们爱着对方，年龄就不是个问题。
- But what will others think?
那别人会怎么看？
- I don't care what others will think about us. I just know I love him and he loves me...and that's all that matters.
我不在乎别人怎么看我们。我知道我爱他，他也很爱我……这才是最重要的。
Let’s go over some phrases now. 让我们一起来回顾一下有用的短语吧！
gets in the way of成为阻力
Age is not an issue. 年龄不是问题。
That's all that matters. 这才是最重要的。
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据专家披露：原谅并非幸福婚姻的法宝。相反，通过吵架表达愤怒的情绪是婚姻长久幸福的保证。
James McNulty of Florida State University found that the culture of forgiveness could actually cause major problems. The key to a happy marriage: It is not always best to forgive and forget, say Florida researchers.
佛罗里达州立大学的吉姆斯? 麦克纳尔蒂称发现：包容甚至会给婚姻带来严重的问题。谈到幸福婚姻的秘诀，谅解并非永远奏效。
'I continued to find evidence that thoughts and behaviors presumed to be associated with better wellbeing lead to worse wellbeing among some people - usually the people who need the most help achieving wellbeing.' McNulty therefore set out to examine the potential costs of positive psychology. In a set of recent studies, he found that forgiveness in marriage can have some unintended negative effects.
“很多资料证明人们普遍认为能给我们带来幸福的思维和行为其实适得其反。”麦克纳尔蒂着手研究了所谓‘积极心理’可能让人们付出的代价。在近期的研究中，他发现婚姻中的原谅会导致难以预料的负面后果。
'We all experience a time in a relationship in which a partner transgresses against us in some way,' he said.
他说：“我们都有体会：婚姻中对方有时会逾越我们的底线。“
'For example, a partner may be financially irresponsible, unfaithful, or unsupportive. ‘When these events occur, we must decide whether we should be angry and hold onto that anger, or forgive.' “Forgiving leads agreeable people to be less likely to offend his partner and disagreeable people to be more likely to offend his partner,” he said.
”比如不愿意承担经济责任，对我们不忠实或是对我们的困境袖手旁观。“ ”当这些事情发生时，我们必须决定我们是愤怒还是压抑愤怒，也就是原谅。“ “对于性格随和的伴侣而言，原谅可以减少他们未来犯错的可能性，对于性格不佳的人而言，原谅反而会鼓励他们变本加厉地冒犯伴侣。”
Having a row and being perfectly honest with each other can help marriages last longer, he say.
因此，他认为要想婚姻长久，争吵和坦诚相待是不可或缺的。
Additionally, he claims, anger can serve an important role in signaling to a transgressing partner that the offensive behavior is not acceptable.
另外，他还强调，对于逾越底线的伴侣，愤怒情绪的表达可以起到重要的预警作用。
'If the partner can do something to resolve a problem that is likely to otherwise continue and negatively affect the relationship, people may experience long-term benefits by temporarily withholding forgiveness and expressing anger.'
“如果对方能对于可能继续影响婚姻的行为作出调整，相较原谅和宽容而言，反而会带来更长久的和谐关系。“
However, McNulty found there was no single answer to the problem. There is no 'magic bullet,' no single way to think or behave in a relationship.
但对于任何一种问题，都不可能采取单一的解决途径。也就是说，婚姻中没有灵丹妙药，没有理想的固定模式。
'The consequences of each decision we make in our relationships depends on the circumstances that surround that decision.'
“婚姻关系中面对问题如何抉择，关键看做决定时的具体情境。”
