《赫芬顿邮报》(英语:The Huffington Post)是一个美国主要的新闻网站、聚合博客。2005年，由阿里亚纳·赫芬顿(Arianna Huffington)与肯尼斯·勒利尔(Kenneth Lerer)和乔纳·佩雷蒂(Jonah Peretti)共同创建。《赫芬顿邮报》网站的创立被认为引发了一场新的媒体革命。它曾在美国《时代》杂志评选的'25个最好的博客'中排名第一，在英国《卫报》评出的'50个最有权势的博客中'同样名列榜首。
01
Yell less
少对孩子吼叫
It's hard to keep a normal tone when Junior's scrawling the wall with indelible Sharpie marker. Yelling's hard to stop, especially if your parents were yellers (like practically everyone's). Resolve to break that cycle this time. Take deep breaths, whisper instead of scream, and remember: yelling only guarantees they'll hear you louder.
当孩子用记号笔在墙上涂鸦，留下怎么都擦不掉的痕迹时，很少有父母能保持冷静，仍旧用平静的语调和孩子说话。你很难停止对着孩子大吼大叫，尤其是如果你在童年也有类似的经历（实际上人人都有类似经历）。这一次，尝试打破这种恶性循环吧。你可以先做个深呼吸，然后用轻言细语取代尖叫，并且记住：大喊大叫唯一能保证的效果是孩子觉得你很吵。
02
Praise more
多称赞孩子
You probably live containing the chaos of lost shoes and spilled milk and dinnertime and laundry. It's easy to forget the positive in between the missing socks. 'Wow, you worked hard on that!' can mean the world to a kid, especially if you've spent the morning yelling at him about the indelible Sharpie on the wall.
你的生活也许一片混乱，一会儿弄丢了鞋子，一会儿又打翻了牛奶，一会儿又得洗衣做饭。在繁重家务活的压力下，你很容易就丧失了称赞孩子的积极性。但是，称赞孩子说“哇！你在（画画）这件事上真的很努力！”对孩子而言意义重大，尤其是如果你一早上都在为他涂鸦弄坏墙而大声吼叫的话。
03
Give more hugs
多拥抱孩子
It's also easy to forget the simple act of hugging. How often do you touch your kids? Oxytocin from good big hug can help reset a crappy day, or get you both through another manic Monday morning.
在琐碎的家庭生活中，拥抱也是一个常常容易被遗忘的举动。你还记得你与孩子身体接触的频率吗？给孩子来个大大的、充满爱的拥抱会促进催产素（一种在亲子关系中十分重要的荷尔蒙）的分泌，进而使糟糕的一天变得美好起来，或者让你和孩子能够顺利度过一个抓狂的周一早晨。
04
Say 'I love you' every single morning and every single night.
每天早晨和每天晚上都对孩子说“我爱你”
Kids need to hear you say the words -- especially more than once, especially out of the blue, and especially in front of their friends. Maybe not the last part. That's just for your own entertainment.
孩子需要听到父母对他们说“我爱你”，而且父母要经常对他们说，尤其是在他们伤心需要安慰的时候或是在他们的朋友面前。对孩子说“我爱你”也许并不需要什么理由，而仅仅是为了让你自己感到快乐。
05
Put down the phone
放下手机
Do not do something drastic like count how many times per day you log onto Facebook. That would just be depressing. Instead, put down your phone and really listen: at the breakfast table, during dinner, at stoplights. Because you do check your phone at stoplights, don't you?
06
Focus on experiences rather than things.
把金钱花在丰富孩子的体验上，而非具体的事物上
Get rid of the toys no one plays with, the clothes no one wears, and the furniture no one likes. Then spend your money on doing, rather than accumulating. Your kids would much rather go to Disney World than get a new couch. Seriously. Just ask them.
07
Pick one thing to stop nagging about
停止唠叨
Maybe he lives out of the clothes basket instead of his drawers. Maybe you can't see the floor of her bedroom. Maybe he chews with his mouth open, or leaves the toilet seat up, or bites his nails to stubs. Pick something that's merely annoying and decide to let it go. As long as it isn't causing bodily harm or grossing out the general public,put the nagging on pause.
08
Read more as a family
多和家人共享阅读时光
You can never read too much. Maybe it means mom and dad doing Mr. Brown Can Moo! Can You? together, or switching up poems from A Light in the Attic. Or maybe it means a family book club. In these hectic times, that could mean you re-read The Scarlet Letter with your high school sophomore. It's good for you, dammit. And maybe you'll like it this time around.
09
Get outside as a family
全家人一起到户外活动
Soccer practice doesn't count, people. Spending time outdoors really can make you healthier -- and help to put your hectic life on pause. Leave your phone in the car and pick an activity everyone can enjoy. And remember: no one actually likes rollerblading.
这里所说的家庭户外活动可不包括孩子的足球练习课。花一些时间，和家人一起进行户外活动，能够确切地让你更健康，并且能把你从忙碌的生活中解脱出来。把你的手机留在车里，然后选一项全家人都喜欢的活动来玩。请记住：其实没人喜欢滑旱冰。
10
Stop saying 'no.'
停止说“不”
Is it dangerous? Is it possibly damaging to people or property? Does it seriously impact the family running smoothly? If not, then try saying yes.That might mean your toddler goes to Trader Joe's dressed as Batman, your 5-year-old wears two different shoes, or your high schooler spends his entire allowance on video games. But that's OK -- the Batman costume will go away. Knowing that mom or dad respects his choices? That will stick around.
在对孩子的请求说“不”之前，先想想他的请求是不是很危险？是不是会伤害谁或是谁的财产？是不是会严重影响家庭的顺利运转？如果这些问题的答案全都是“否”，那么请尝试不要拒绝孩子。这可能意味着你正在学步的孩子会在去超市时打扮成蝙蝠侠，或是你5岁的孩子穿了两只不同的鞋子，或是你读高中的孩子把所有的零花钱都花在电子游戏上了。但是，所有这些行为都是可以接受的——总有一天，孩子会忘记他的蝙蝠侠衣服，但是却会永远记住他的爸爸或妈妈非常尊重他的选择。
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