试试看这个神奇的配方：在每种状况下，注意在你变得快乐或不快乐之前，是否有变得快乐的可能性？

如果你把责任丢给别人，你会保持在悲惨中。用丢责任给别人，你就丢掉你的自由，你丢掉你选择的自由。　　

If you throw the responsibility onto somebody else, you will remain miserable. By throwing the responsibility onto somebody you are throwing away your freedom, you are throwing away your freedom to choose.

这必须是这里最基本的原则之一——那个悲惨或快乐是妳的选择，让它深陷在妳内在，妳选择它。当妳不快乐是妳选择了不快乐，没有其它的理由。一旦妳了解这一点，妳将会从监狱被释放。那时它是由妳决定。　

This has to be one of the most fundamental principles around here -- that misery or happiness is your choice. Let it sink deep in you. You choose it. When you are unhappy you have chosen to be unhappy. There is no other excuse. Once you understand this you will be freed from the prison. Then it is up to you.

我听说过一个伟大的苏菲神秘家，他总是快乐的，总是愉快的，总是狂喜的。　　

I have heard about a great Sufi mystic who was always happy, always cheerful, always blissed out.

门徒问他说：「师父，你看起来总是那么快乐。有好几年，在很多状况下，我一直观察着你。从天亮到天黑，多年来我观察了你。各种状况都经历了，必定都经历了，但你总是保持快乐。你的秘密是什么？」　

A disciple asked him, 'Master, you always look so happy. I have been watching you for many years, in many situations. Day in, day out, for years I have observed you. All kinds of situations have passed, must have passed, but you always remain happy. What is your secret?'

师父说：「没有什么秘密在这里面。无论什么状况出现在我面前，我总是有选择：要快乐或不快乐。而我总是选择要快乐。」　

The Master said, 'There is no secret in it. Whatsoever situation confronts me, I always have the choice: to be happy or to be unhappy. And I always choose to be happy.'

试试看，这是个神奇的配方。在每种状况下，注意在妳变得快乐或不快乐之前——注意。是否有变得快乐的可能性？而妳总是会发现可能性在那里，总有某些值得高兴的事。如果妳想要变得不快乐，那时总有某些使得不愉快的东西。　

Try it. This is a magic formula. In each situation, look before you become unhappy or happy -- look. Is there a possibility of being happy? And you will always find that the possibility is there. There is always something to be happy about. If you want to be unhappy then there is always something to be unhappy about.

这个世界充满了荆棘和充满了花朵。它既不是玫瑰床也不是荆棘床——它充满着两者，这取决于妳。妳可以选择花朵，妳可以制做成一张花床，而睡在玫瑰床上。或者妳可以选择荆棘而受苦。地狱是妳的作品，天堂也是。

The world is full of thorns and full of flowers. It is neither a rose-bed nor a thorn-bed -- it is full of both. It depends on you. You can choose flowers and you can make a bed of flowers and sleep on the bed of roses. Or you can choose thorns and suffer. Hell is your creation, so is heaven.