来来来，拿笔拿本来听课，小译课堂今天的主题是：情商高的人不会做的10件事。童鞋们要努力做个高情商小盆友哟。
They don't assume that the way they think and feel about a situation is the way it is in reality, nor how it will turn out in the end.
They recognize their emotions as responses, not accurate gauges, of what's going on. They accept that those responses may have to do with their own issues, rather than the objective situation at hand. 他们不会把想象和感觉当成事实，也不会去臆想事情的结果。他们将自己的情感视为对事情的反应，而不是精确的评判。他们接受那些可能与自身有关的情绪反应但却不会为身边的客观环境而烦恼。 Their emotional base points are not external.Their emotions aren't 'somebody else's doing,' and therefore 'somebody else's problem to resolve.' Understanding that they are the ultimate cause of what they experience keeps them out of falling into the trap of indignant passivity: Where one believes that as the universe has done wrong, the universe will ultimately have to correct it.他们不依赖于外物。他们不会有“‘别人在做，这是‘别人要解决的问题’”的想法。知道自己的态度终将决定自己的处境，他们避免让自己陷入那种“谁错了，谁负责”的愤愤不平的被动状态。 They don't assume to know what it is that will make them truly happy.Being that our only frame of reference at any given time is what's happened in the past, we actually have no means to determine what would make us truly happy, as opposed to just feeling 'saved' from whatever we disliked about our past experiences. In understanding this, they open themselves up to any experience that their life evolves toward, knowing there are equal parts good and bad in anything. 他们不会假装知道什么能让自己真正地快乐。因为在任何时候我们唯一的参照标准都是过去，你实际上没有办法确定什么能让自己真正快乐，不仅仅是从过去不愉快的经历中感到“救赎”。他们深谙此道，展开双臂去迎接生活给他们带来的任何历练，并清楚知道任何事物都是好坏参半。They don't think that being fearful is a sign they are on the wrong path.
The presence of indifference is a sign you're on the wrong path. Fear means you're trying to move toward something you love, but your old beliefs, or unhealed experiences, are getting in the way. (Or, rather, are being called up to be healed.) 他们认为恐惧并不意味走错了路。
对一切漠不关心是走错路的一种迹象。恐惧意味着你在试图向你所爱的事物前进，但是过去的信仰或未治愈的经历将会阻碍你（或者，更确切地说，这些经历正被唤醒，以得到治愈。）
They know that happiness is a choice, but they don't feel the need to make it all the time.They are not stuck in the illusion that 'happiness' is a sustained state of joy. They allow themselves time to process everything they are experiencing. They allow themselves to exist in their natural state. In that non-resistance, they find contentment. 他们知道幸福是一种选择，但并不是唯一的选择。他们不会幻想“幸福”是一种持久的快乐状态。他们允许自己花时间处理所经历的任何事情。他们让自己处于自然状态。在这种不抵抗状态下，他们感到很满足。
They don't allow their thoughts to be chosen for them.They recognize that through social conditioning and the eternal human monkey-mind, they can often be swayed by thoughts, beliefs and mindsets that were never theirs in the first place. To combat this, they take inventory of their beliefs, reflect on their origins, and decide whether or not that frame of reference truly serves them. 他们不允许自己的想法被左右。他们承认由于社会制约以及人类永恒的不定式思维，他们常常会被想法、信念和心态所影响，最终偏离最初的意愿。为了与之抗争，他们检视自己的信念，仔细思考自己的初衷，再决定外界的参照标准是否真的适合自己。
They recognize that infallible composure is not emotional intelligence.They don't withhold their feelings, or try to temper them so much as to render them almost gone. They do, however, have the capacity to withhold their emotional response until they are in an environment wherein it would be appropriate to express how they are feeling. They don't suppress it, they manage it effectively. 他们认为被永远沉着冷静并非情商高的表现。他们不会抑制自己的感觉，或者尝试调节不良情绪让其消失。但是，他们却有能力控制住自己的情绪反应，除非所处环境适合将这样的情绪表达出来。他们不会压制情绪，而会有效地管理情绪。
They know that a feeling will not kill them.They've developed enough stamina and awareness to know that all things, even the worst, are transitory. 他们知道情感不会要了你的命。他们已经培养出了足够的毅力和意识，知道所有的事情，即使是最糟糕的，都是暂时的。
They don't just become close friends with anyone.They recognize true trust and intimacy as something you build, and something you want to be discerning with whom you share. But they're not guarded or closed as they are simply mindful and aware of who they allow into their lives and hearts. They are kind to all, but truly open to few. 他们不会轻易与人成为亲密的朋友。
他们认为真正的信任与亲密是一点一滴建立起来的，是你想要与之分享的冲动。但是他们并不保守或自闭，他们只是很警惕并意识到谁才能走进自己的生活和内心。他们对所有人都很友好，但是只对少数人敞开心扉。
They don't confuse a bad feeling for a bad life.They are aware of, and avoid, extrapolation, which is essentially projecting the present moment into the foreseeable future -- believing that the moment at hand constitutes what your entire life amounted to, rather than just being another passing, transitory experience in the whole. Emotionally intelligent people allow themselves their 'bad' days. They let themselves be fully human. It's in this non-resistance that they find the most peace of all. 他们不会将一种糟糕的感觉误认为一种糟糕的生活。他们意识到，推测会从本质上把当前时刻映射到可预见的未来，所以他们不会这样做。他们相信生活是由现在组成的，而不仅仅是过去的一个又一个已经流逝的短暂经历。高情商的人允许自己有”糟糕“的日子。他们让自己成为“完整的人”。正是在这种无抵抗状态中，他们能找到最平和的心态。
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