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小伙伴萌都知道，第一印象灰常重要。据说第一印象的形成只需要七秒钟，如果在这七秒钟内我们给别人留下了灰常糟糕的印象，那么这个印象的阴影可能灰笼罩我们七年之久。最近外网Bright Side例举了五个认识新朋友后大多数人都会犯的致命错误。今天小编就来跟大家一起看看这些错误是什么，一起做到防微杜渐。
1. You tell lies. 你撒谎。
（图片：顺便说一句，我有一辆宝马X8！我还有一部苹果8手机！）
撒谎是一个很不好的习惯，因为总有一天所有的事情都会真相大白
（all secrets eventually become known）
Remember: relationships begun on the basis of honesty are always stronger than those founded on deception.
记住，基于诚实的关系往往比基于欺骗的关系更加牢固。
2. You try too hard. 你太“努力”。
（图片：就平庸博学来看，不是每一个人都能决定历史的走向......）
即使这场会议决定着你的未来，即使你在面试梦寐以求的工作，即使这是你与恋人父母的第一次见面，都不要太刻意“努力”，过犹不及。
If you appear too intelligent or cool, the person you're talking to might interpret your behavior as insincere boasting.
如果你表现得过于机智和潇洒，与你交谈的人可能把你的行为理解为不真诚的吹嘘。
The result might be that they're reluctant to continue talking to you. Open up gradually to people until you feel they're ready to accept you as you are.
结果可能就是他们不愿再与你交谈。正确的做法是逐步地与他们交往直至你觉得他们已经可以接受真实的你。
3. You're too open. 你太开放。
（图片：哇塞，你是一名医生啊？我有肾结石。）
有的人你第一眼看见就喜欢，所以你就想尽可能与TA结交，给TA留下一个好印象。
You feel like telling them your life story and sharing your most private thoughts and feelings. But doing this when you first get to know someone is definitely not a good idea.
你想要告诉他们你的生活经历，最私人的想法和感受。但是与一位素未谋面的人说这些绝不是一件好事。
首先，你不了解他们：Firstly, you don't know what that new person's life is really like or anything about their dreams, cares, and principles. If you talk too much about your personal life without learning anything about theirs, you can find things get awkward.
其次，你会被认为不成熟，不严肃：Secondly, if you reveal something that should really be kept a secret, you'll come across as lacking in maturity and seriousness.
4. You're scared of pauses. 你不停高谈阔论。
跟刚认识人的聊天，时有沉默很正常。当然啦，沉默有时会让人觉得有点儿尴尬，但是长时间谈论一些没有营养的事更尴尬，比如一些不恰当的笑话。
You'll agree that it can be very tiring to engage with someone who seems to expect that you'll pay close attention to their endless talking.
你可能会有这种体验：与那些聊起天来没完没了的人在一起会很累。
So if the conversation has naturally reached a low ebb, wait a little, and then either change the subject or leave.
所以，如果这个天“聊死了”，等一会儿，然后要么换话题，要么离开。（也不要操之过急）
5. You're too nosy. 你太好管闲事。
（图片：你多大了？结婚了吗？有孩子了吗？为什么呢？）
你要尊重新人的话语权。问他们问题，对他们的观点感兴趣，乐于听他们对事物的看法。
最重要的是，要懂世故（But above all, be tactful! ）。别把聊天变成审讯，也别刨根问底，大谈敏感话题：However interesting and lively the conversation, don't turn it into an interrogation. Don't ask too many questions. And don't forget that most people don't like talking about politics, religion, money, or their personal lives with those they don't really know very well.
外貌并不是决定他人对我们印象的唯一因素，我们的所作所为同样很重要。所以小伙伴们，这些不能犯的错误你都get到了吗？以后可不能犯哦。
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