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女生喜欢听好话
男人也喜欢被夸~
那么怎样才能“有技巧”的夸赞他们呢？
赫扬
Yes as we’ve reiterated on the show it’s important to give women complements, but when it comes to men, not all complements are equally created. A possible important thing to note is men respond to praise and appreciation just as much as women do. Wow, let’s talk about this.
Why is that a surprise?
LM
赫扬
Er? Why is it? Well, guys, open up!Tell me.
That surprise is so offending.
LM
赫扬
Oh really I’m sorry about that.
Men care about compliments as much as women do.
LM
赫扬
Well men then you need to open up a little bit.
So then, it is our fault, huh?
LM
赫扬
Tell us a little bit more. Show your vulnerability, show that you need this. We’ll give it to you. So what do you need?
Well, compliments show that you believe in us. One of the biggest things that make a guy melt is when our partners support us and believe in us. Any variation of “I believe in you” makes us feel like a superhero who can achieve anything.
LM
Ryan
Yeah there’s also of course your appearance, guys wanna be told they’re beautiful, not beautiful...
赫扬
You’re pretty
Ryan
Sorry, I meant handsome, but we wanna be told hey you’re looking good baby.
You’ve been working out!
LM
Ryan
Or something like I love been wrapped in your sexy arms, something like that. Ladies there you go we’re throwing gold at you. Make sure you use these lines tonight. Compliments ladies, compliments that acknowledge his efforts, you’re so good to me, thank you so much for cooking for me love, I really appreciate it and this is delicious. If it’s not delicious, you still say that last part ladies. Thank you. Compliments that show you respect them. Guys, of course they wanna be respected by their ladies. So when you say something like you’re a good man, or I’m so proud of you, you make him very happy I guess. Laiming what else we’ve got here?
You become a better version of yourself every time I see you.
LM
赫扬
That sounds great.
And also compliments that show women trust us and our ability to lead. So blame social condition in biology or whatever else you like to do. But the majority of us, men, have a deep love of being seen as the leader in the lives and relationships. One of the things that my mom always says about how she treated my father, was that whenever my father mistreats her in public, like in front of others or relatives or friends, she never talks back at the occasion. She always prepares some comeback when they’re alone, when they’re in the private place at home.
LM
赫扬
Smart trick.
Ryan
Another one here we have is compliments like showing you’re affected by him. Of course guys wanna know that they have an effect on you. Like when you enter the room you’re the only thing I could look at, this kind of thing. That lets him know that she’s totally into me. Who doesn’t want to be having that kind of attention from someone they love, right? But I think for me personally here I wanna say, thebiggest compliments I like, of course I like appearance, guys, and bodies this kind of thing, I like those kind of compliments, who… people that go to the gym often, spend a lot of time in there, and maybe they wanna be recognize for it. So I like those. But I think less of vain kind of compliment, the one that I like, andwould like to get from someone special I think is very important is the trust one. Of course trust is integral, but one of the examples here really hit home for me and that is, I’m on your side. Because in this world, if your take, if your team gets divided, a house divided falls, but if you and your teammate through thick and thin have each other’s back, trust each other saying, alright, if he’s feeling this way, I know him, I love him, I’m with him because I know that he’s like that for a reason, let’s do this together. Blind faith. That kind of thing, that for me is loyalty. That’s love that’s trust and that kind of compliment goes a long way for me.
赫扬
Oh I wonder if Laiming, so guys you all feel this?
Well sometimes, in most cases. But I think one trick for women to succeed in this is try and do it sincerely. It’s like when my wife says thank you so much for cooking for me, love, I really appreciate this and this is delicious, I would think is he try to manipulate me? Is he trying to get me to cooking more?
LM
赫扬
Is a he?
Oh she, sorry!
LM
赫扬
After listening to you guys really opening up to me, I really appreciate that. It just sounds like it’s the same nice words for men and women.
Ryan
For sure, but ladies, also what Laiming said is the most important for any compliments given to anybody. Make sure they’re genuine because often people can see through the un-genuine.
赫扬
Yes so ladies don’t lie. Just say it when you really mean it.
Ryan
And compliment your man maybe he needs it today.
赫扬
Give him a little bit of nudge, like a token of gratitude.
Ryan
Say something nice, that’s it.
赫扬
But don’t lie!
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Stacey
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