如何教育任性的孩子

来源How to Handle Unruly Children
译者Jean290

How to Handle Unruly Children

如何教育任性的孩子

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I want to do this! What's This? ..

我想这样做！这是什么？

Handle Unruly ChildrenHow to Handle Unruly Children Stubbornness is cute in a toddler but by the time the child reaches school age, unruly behavior is a problem for parents, teachers and others. The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own parenting methods probably allowed our child to become unruly and by altering them, we can help our child behave appropriately.

一个蹒跚学步的孩子任性是顽劣儿童可爱的表现，但是，如果孩子到了入学年龄的儿童，任性对家长、老师或其他人而言就是一件棘手的事情。纠正问题的第一步就是承认我们自己的养育方法可能使我们的孩子变得粗野，如果改变它们，我们可以帮助我们的孩子行为举止得体。 

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Set clear boundaries and stick to them. Your child needs to know the exact behavior expected of him. Child experts tell us that children actually want boundaries and that once firmly established; most children will respect the rules.

设定清晰的界限，并且坚持这么做。你的孩子需要知道具体怎么做。儿童专家告诉我们，孩子们真正想要知道明确的界定，一旦规定严格确立，大多数孩子会遵守规则。

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Make very few threats but carry through on those you do make. It's easy to warn a child that he'll go to bed without supper if he doesn't clean his room but when you give in and feed him, you're sending the message that you don't really mean what you say. If you aren't ready to make good on a threat, just don't make it.

少用威胁口吻，但是，要至始至终贯彻你的规定。如果他没有打扫自己的房间，你可以很容易地警告孩子没有吃晚饭就去睡觉，但是当你让步而让他吃饭时，你就向他发出了一个信息，你说话不算数。如果你不准备威胁他，那你最好不要威胁他。 

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Spend time with your child. You don't have to plan activities for every minute of the day, just taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him to do his homework at the kitchen table while you cook creates a feeling of togetherness and may reduce unruly behavior that stems from insecurity.

花时间陪陪孩子。您不比计划一天中每一分钟都和孩子在一起，只是当你做事的时候，戴上孩子或是你在厨房忙碌的时候，让他在餐桌上做功课，这样，你就为你的孩子创造了一个团聚的感觉，可以减少由于不安全产生的不好表现。

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Set reasonable punishments that get results. All children are different and one child may respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his allowance reduced. Avoid using chores as a punishment. Children should do chores without pay as part of being in a family.

确定能带来良好结果合理的惩罚。所有的孩子是不同的。如果惩罚的有道理，有的孩子可以迅速做出反应。而有的孩子可能需要通过减少他的津贴方式来惩罚他。避免用做家务当作一种惩罚。作为家庭成员之一，孩子做家务是应该做的。

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Reward your child's good behavior. Positive reinforcement of carries a strong message to your child. Children who receive praise for good acts try harder to behave.

奖励孩子的良好行为。正面引导给孩子传递积极的信息，因为表现好而得到称赞的孩子会更加努力。

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Schedule your child's time to help her develop responsibility. Children who misbehave often have too much idle time on their hands. Until your child can behave appropriately by herself, reduce her free time and fill her hours with activities, sports, errands or study work.

安排时间来帮助孩子培养责任感。表现不好的孩子往往有太多空闲时间。要想让你的孩子行为举止适当得体，你要减少她的空闲时间，帮助她安排活动，进行体育活动，做家务或学习。

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Visit your pediatrician if you think your child's unruly behavior stems from a psychological problem. Children with Attention Deficit Disorder and other behavioral conditions may need medication or diet changes to help them function responsibly

如果您认为孩子的问题由心理问题产生的，就带孩子去看儿科医生。注意力障碍和其他行为障碍的儿童可能需要药物治疗或通过饮食的改变的方式来帮助他们康复。