15 Do's and Don'ts When Dating
15件约会时该做和不该做的事
1. DO Turn up on time.
准时赴约
Imagine that for every minute you are delayed your date will be thinking about how the possibility of them being stood up. You’ll have left them in the restaurant or bar looking at their watch feeling self-conscious about everyone watching them sitting there alone.
试想一下，在你迟到的每分钟里，你的约会对象可能都在想自己是不是会被放鸽子。另外，你把他们单独留在饭馆或者酒吧里，这会让他们觉得很难为情，一直不停地看手表，一个人坐在那儿，感觉所有人都在盯着自己。
2. Don’t talk about how great you are.
不要一直说自己有多好
How off-putting! Your date does not, I repeat NOT want to hear all about you. They want to be listened to, respected and engaged with. There will be plenty of time for them get to know you, just wait your turn and reveal more about you when the time calls for it.
多让人讨厌啊！你的约会对象不想听你一直说自己的事情。他们希望能被倾听、被尊重，能多和你有一些交流。以后还会有大把的时间让他们去了解你，你要做的就是静心等待，等需要你更多地展示自己的时候再说也来得及。
3. DO be interested.
要表现得有兴趣
If you’re meeting for the first time it’s likely you’ll find out a lot about your date that you never knew. Some of it may be of interest to you, some not, but act like you are interested. Think of the effort they have made to tell you things that are important to them and show some interest in what they are saying. Which leads me to my next point.
如果你们是第一次见面的话，一定会发现对方许多你以前不知道的事情。有些可能是你有兴趣的，有些则没有，但无论如何你都要表现得有兴趣。想想他们是多么努力地告诉你对他们来说很重要的事情，所以你也应该对他们说的事情表现出兴趣。这就引出下面我要说的第4点建议。
4. Don’t keep checking your phone.
不要一直看手机
This shows total lack of interest and disrespect to the conversation. If you check your phone you are clearly saying that your phone is more important than the person sitting opposite you. Prepare to get the bus home.
一直看手机是对谈话不感兴趣和不礼貌的表现。如果你翻看手机的话，很明显是在告诉对方电话比他/她重要。那么你就可以坐车回家了。
5. DO Listen more.
要学会倾听
We all like the sound of our own voice but when you are getting to know someone and the relationship is in it’s raw phase then quieten and take in what has been said. Speak less and show your interest by listening more.
我们都喜欢听自己说话的声音，但如果你在了解一个人，而且你们的关系才刚刚开始的话，那么你就应该安静下来，去倾听对方在说什么。少说话，多倾听来表现出你的兴趣。
6. Don’t be under-dressed.
不要穿得过于随便
Being overdressed is far better than turning up looking a scruff. Your date will appreciate the effort you made and if they haven’t made as much of an effort then they will aim to the next time you meet up.
打扮得过于精心也比看起来邋遢好很多。你为了见面所花的心思会让对方很感动，而且他们如果觉得自己做得不如你好，那么就会努力在下次见面的时候表现得更好一点。
7. DO ask more questions.
要多问问题
That’s right by now you are so interested in what they are saying that you want to know more. Listen, take in the information and ask questions to prove that what you have heard is computing.
这是对的，说明到目前为止，你对他们说的事情很感兴趣，所以还想知道得更多。听他们说的话，了解其内容，并问一些相关的问题来证明你真的听进去了他们说的话。
8. Don’t try and be perfect.
不要把自己表现得很完美
No one is perfect and no one is looking for Mr or Mrs perfect. No relationship is built on perfection so no need to worry if your date doesn’t seem too impressed with your little quirks or silly habits. Your imperfection is what makes you perfect.
没有人是完美的，也没有人在找完美的另一半。没有一段关系是建立在双方都完美的基础上的，所以如果对方因为你的一些小怪癖或者不好的习惯而对你不太感冒的话，你也不用太担心。让你完美的正是你的不完美。
9. DO Make eye contact.
要有眼神接触
People will assess honesty through eye contact. The more you look away when you are speaking the more dishonest you will seem. You don’t need to stare your date out with your lovers eyes, just know that a better connection will be made if you keep your focus on them.
人们会通过眼神接触来判断对方是否诚实。在说话的时候，一个人越是常常转移目光，看起来就越不诚实。你不需要用你充满爱意的眼睛死盯着对方，你只需要知道只要你关注对方，你们之间就能建立一个更好的关系。
10. Don’t spend too long talking about past relationships.
不要花太多时间谈过去的恋情
This subject is best mentioned and not elaborated on. Nobody wants to hear how much you loved your ex and how wonderful your life was with them. If you find yourself in the middle of this conversation I suggest you moonwalk out the bar and get a taxi home.
这个话题最好能一带而过，不要多加赘述。没有人会想听你说自己多爱前任，你们在一起的生活是多么美好。如果你发现自己正在谈论这个话题的话，我建议你用太空步走出酒吧，然后打的回家。
11. DO be honest.
要诚实
The relationship between you two will start off in the best possible way if you are totally honest with your date. This is the way I see it. You should always be proud of expressing exactly who you are and what you stand for and if it doesn’t sit well with them then you know that they aren’t the right person for you.
如果你能做到以诚相待的话，你俩之间的关系就能以最好的方式开始。这就是我看到的“诚实”的作用。你要是能准确地表达出自己是个什么样的人，你的立场和观念是什么，就应该为自己感到自豪。如果对方无法接受这些，那么你也能知道他们不是那个适合你的人。
12. Don’t think too far ahead
不要想太远
Enjoy the moment! Forget what might happen, what could happen and all the variables and just enjoy your date, focus on connecting and being happy in the moment.
享受现在！忘记可能发生的事情，忘记可以发生的事情，忘记所有的可变因素，好好享受你们的约会，把精力集中在俩人心与心的连通上，享受当下的幸福。
13.Do offer to pay for the bill.
要主动买单
Guys find it attractive if a lady shows intention of paying for the bill. It’s sexy, and shows that she is able to look after herself, but guys if you are reading this do not let the lady pay on the first date. Take control of the payment as the ladies like the same quality in us.
有的男性认为主动提出要买单的女性非常有魅力。在他们看来，这一举动非常迷人，而且说明她有能力照顾自己，但是，男人们，看完这篇文章后，千万不要第一次约会的时候就让女性买单了。主动买单同样也是女性欣赏的一个品质。
14. Don’t use cheesy lines.
不要说烂情话
You’re not thirteen years old any more so don’t even go there. Cheesy lines should be left to teenagers, movies and people that have no interest in ever dating again. Not wise and not cool, enough said on that one.
你不是13岁了，所以不要再做这样的事了。烂情话是留给小年轻们、电影台词和不想有第二次约会的人去用的。
15. Do throw in a compliment or two.
要夸奖对方一两句。
We all love a compliment and I suggest that throwing one in to the conversation will only be a positive move. Keep it simple, keep it clean and say it like you mean it, not just because you are returning a compliment.
每个人都喜欢被别人赞美，所以我认为在聊天的时候夸奖对方一两句肯定能起到积极作用。赞美之词一定要简单、纯洁，把你真正想说的表达出来，而不要说得像是在回敬对方的赞美一样。
Now go and get working my good people and may cupid be looking down on you. Adios!
现在大家都去好好约会吧，愿丘比特眷顾你们！再见！
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